Whether you’re buying a house, getting married, or opening a business, you always want to consider the “feng shui” and pick a lucky day. However, you can’t tell if a home’s “feng shui” is good or bad just by looking at the living environment or choosing a lucky day to do things. The key is the owner of the house, and how good their character is. If a person has good character, the “feng shui” of their home will naturally be good. On the other hand, if a person has bad character, even if they live in a “feng shui” treasure land with fertile soil, their home will become barren and dilapidated due to their habits.
A Person’s Character is the Best “Feng Shui”
I once heard a story about a rich man who bought a piece of land and built a villa. He planted a few lychee trees in the backyard. Following his friend’s advice, he invited a famous “feng shui master” to check the “feng shui” of his home. One day, he drove to the train station to pick up the master and drove to his home. On the way, there were some cars honking and trying to pass him, but the rich man carefully avoided them. The master said, “You drive very steady,” and the rich man smiled and said, “Those who try to pass are usually in a hurry, so I can’t delay them.”
When they got to a narrow alley, a young boy ran past laughing. The rich man stepped on the brakes and slowly avoided him. After the boy passed, the rich man didn’t step on the gas to go forward. He seemed to be waiting for something. After a while, another boy ran out, chasing after the first boy. The master was surprised and asked, “How did you know there was another boy behind?” The rich man shrugged and said, “Kids are always chasing each other. If it was only one boy, he wouldn’t be laughing so happily.”
The master said, “You’re really thoughtful.” When they got to the villa, a few birds suddenly flew up from the backyard. Seeing this, the rich man parked his car at the entrance of the villa and apologized to the master, saying, “Please take a break.” The master asked, “What’s wrong?” The rich man said, “There must be kids stealing lychees in the backyard. If we go in suddenly, we might scare them and they could fall from the tree.” The master said, “I don’t need to look at the “feng shui” of this house. Take me back to the train station.” This time, it was the rich man’s turn to be surprised. “Master, why do you say that?” The master said, “Wherever you are is a “feng shui” treasure land.”
This story tells us that a person’s character is the best “feng shui.”
A Man’s Character Determines the “Feng Shui” of a Home
As the head of the family, a man plays a crucial role in the family. His words and actions, his behavior and dealings, directly affect the “feng shui” of the family in everyday life.
A man with good character knows how to use his emotional intelligence to maintain a marriage, making it more fulfilling. He knows how to care for and be considerate of his wife. Even if they have disagreements or conflicts, he won’t insult her or use force. Instead, he will patiently communicate and use kind words to create harmony between husband and wife, leading to a happy marriage and a prosperous family. As the ancients said, “A man is like heaven, and a woman is like earth.” When heaven and earth are in harmony, everything will succeed.
However, some men with bad character have no skills or have encountered setbacks outside. When they return home, they take all their anger out on their wives. It’s inevitable that there will be conflicts in a marriage, but such men don’t know how to be humble. Once a conflict arises, they resort to insults and even physical violence. We often see such cases in the news. Ultimately, they only hurt each other’s feelings, leading to divorce and even family breakdown.
A Man with Good Character Teaches His Children by Example, Leading to Greater Success in Education
“If a child is not taught, it is the father’s fault.” In a child’s education, the father’s role is crucial. It will directly affect the child’s entire life.
A father and son were riding a bus. After getting on the bus, the father paid the fare and went to the back seat. The son followed him and sat down. The son took out a banknote and showed it off. It turned out he had gotten on the bus without paying. At this moment, the father’s actions earned the respect of the driver and everyone on the bus. The father didn’t scold his son on the bus. Instead, he took his son to the driver and apologized first. Then he made his son apologize and let the child put the money into the fare box himself.
This may seem like a small matter, but it reveals the character of this father. A man teaches by example. When he reprimands his child in a different way, it can help the child understand their mistake better, prevent them from repeating it, and raise a child with good character.
A Man with Good Character Knows How to Be Grateful and Filial to His Parents, Showing Patience, Leading to a Happy Family
Huang Xiang of the Eastern Han Dynasty was a recognized model of filial piety in history. When Huang Xiang was young, his family was poor. He lost his mother at the age of 10 and his father was often ill. In the hot summer, before going to bed, he would use a fan to shoo away mosquitoes and cool his father’s bed and pillow so that his father could fall asleep earlier. On cold winter nights, he would get into the cold bed first and warm it up with his own body before letting his father sleep. In winter, he couldn’t afford warm clothes. To avoid making his father sad, he never complained about the cold and pretended to be happy and cheerful, creating a joyful atmosphere at home to comfort his father and help him recover quickly. He was extremely filial to his father. People in the capital praised him, saying, “He is unparalleled in the world, the young Huang of Jiangxia.”
The idiom “fan pillow and warm quilt” comes from Huang Xiang’s story.
However, some young people today don’t know how to be grateful to their parents. They are constantly complaining. They often scold their parents and sometimes even interrupt or stop them from speaking. They dislike their parents’ lifestyle, their slow movements and reactions, and their inability to keep up with their pace. They have no patience with their parents. Some even go so far as to beat and scold their parents and refuse to let them in. Such men, even if they are given fertile land and a “feng shui” treasure land, will cause their families to gradually decline and become impoverished due to their character.
A Man with Good Character Knows How to Get Along with His Wife, Using Emotional Intelligence to Maintain Their Relationship, Teach His Children with His Words and Actions, and Treat His Parents with Patience and Filial Piety, Allowing Them to Enjoy Their Golden Years. Such a Family Will Be Smooth Sailing and Prosperous Throughout Their Lives.
He will also be a respected and liked person in society. As the saying goes, “A person with good character will never lack good fortune.” He treats others with kindness, always considers others, is honest and trustworthy, and knows how to respect others. Such a person will encounter noble people wherever they go. Even if they face temporary difficulties, someone will come to their aid. Sometimes, even heaven will favor you.
On the other hand, a person with bad character, who doesn’t understand filial piety or manners, spends their days eating, drinking, gambling, and causing trouble, will not only be rejected by society, but also punished by heaven.
Good character is cultivated bit by bit. Only by constantly maintaining good intentions can you develop good character. Don’t be selfish. Think of others more. Care for the weak. Respect the elderly and love the young. Do more good deeds. As long as you keep doing these things, I believe you will have many unexpected rewards and joys on your journey through life. Because a person’s character can largely determine their fate.
A man’s character determines the “feng shui” of a home. A man with good character will know how to speak, how to be a person, and how to do things.
No matter how smart, capable, or well-off a person is, if they don’t know how to speak, how to be a person, or how to do things, they will ultimately fail.