“A flower may bloom again, but people can’t turn back the clock.” Time flies, and every person’s time is fair. We all experience childhood, youth, and middle age, and eventually, we’ll leave this world.
A journalist once asked a celebrity, “Would you give up everything for your loved one?” The celebrity replied, “If I were 20, I might do that, but at 40, I wouldn’t choose that.”
As people age, women become more mature in their emotions. Some people say women are zero in love, but I think it depends on the stage of life. Maybe a 10-year-old girl or a 20-something who has never been in love might feel that way. However, as people enter middle age, the change becomes apparent.
Host Jin Xing said, “If a man wants to be with a teenage girl, he needs to use sweet talk; if he wants to be with a woman in her 20s, he needs to use flowers; and if he wants to be with a woman in her 30s, he needs to use his heart.”
So, as women grow older, they become wiser. Women should understand that after 40, they shouldn’t be too sentimental. Some people just aren’t worth it.
Netizens say that G.E.M. wrote a song called “Bubble” for a man, which was inspired by her experience of being hurt in love. Later, in an interview, G.E.M. said that she wrote the song after experiencing a breakup and seeing bubbles floating in the air.
G.E.M. said, “The bubbles on the street are so beautiful, especially when the sunlight passes through. That’s why I wrote a line: ‘The bubbles under the sunlight are colorful.’”
In reality, whether you’re a celebrity or an ordinary person, everyone goes through similar experiences. It’s just that ordinary people don’t get as much attention.
In real life, people should treat love like bubbles. When you reach a certain age, you’ll realize that love can be fleeting, like bubbles. It’s colorful and beautiful, but it can disappear.
So, sometimes you need to let go. After you’ve given your all, you’ll realize that love can be like bubbles—it’s not worth it.
Maybe many people are like G.E.M., who was very sentimental when they were young and wrote many songs for someone. But people will eventually let go, just like G.E.M. is doing well now.
After 40, you must understand that sometimes you shouldn’t be too sentimental. People who aren’t worth it will always be unworthy, and you should leave them behind.
Aunt Wang is 42 years old now.
Aunt Wang didn’t find another half until her 30s. Since breaking up with her ex-boyfriend in her 20s, Aunt Wang focused on her career.
Although Aunt Wang broke up with her boyfriend, she never gave up on him. She would meet him during her free time.
Aunt Wang and her ex-boyfriend never got married, and her current boyfriend didn’t find another half either.
So, Aunt Wang thought they still had hope, which is why she never got married.
But a few days ago, Aunt Wang suddenly heard that her ex-boyfriend got married, which made her feel very sad. She finally decided to let him go.
Maybe someone will become the most loved person in your life, and you can’t let them go.
Like the time a host sought help during a live broadcast: “I’m already married, but I can’t let go of my ex-boyfriend. Later, I divorced my husband because my ex-boyfriend kept looking for me.”
However, every time her ex-boyfriend came to find her, it was to borrow money. She was blinded by love and didn’t understand the truth. After the divorce, she realized she was cheated.
Your love for someone might make you feel like you two have unfinished business, but it might just be your own sentimentalism. The other person might be using you, and they might not have feelings for you.
A woman over 40 shouldn’t be too sentimental. We’re not young anymore, and it’s time to prepare for our future life, not hang ourselves on a crooked tree branch.
When you’re over 40 and still living for someone else, that’s our true failure.
Let the past go, and maybe you can’t let go of someone, but one day you’ll realize that what you gave up for that person wasn’t worth it.
Ms. Liu got married and never gained her husband’s recognition. Even after 20 years of marriage, Ms. Liu’s position in her husband’s heart remained low.
Ms. Liu got married at 20, which was arranged by her parents. Although she liked her husband, she agreed to the marriage not just to obey her parents’ wishes.
However, Ms. Liu’s husband only obeyed his parents’ wishes, and after many years of marriage, he still didn’t care about Ms. Liu. Sometimes, he even looked down on her, which made Ms. Liu very sad.
But after having children, Ms. Liu became more devoted to her husband, thinking that since they had kids, her husband would eventually come around and love her.
However, now that Ms. Liu is 40, her husband is still flirting with other women and doesn’t care about her.
Ms. Liu’s 70-year-old mother told her, “You’ll never be able to change this person. You’ve had 20 years, and it’s time to stop being too sentimental. He doesn’t have you in his heart.”
Her mother’s words are like a wake-up call. As the Chinese saying goes, “If you don’t listen to old people’s advice, you’ll suffer in front of them.”
Sometimes, we need to listen to old people’s words in love. They might see things more clearly.
“It’s hard to be aware of the situation when you’re in it, but it’s clear to outsiders.”
When you’re in a relationship and not being treated well, you might think your efforts have moved your partner, or you might think you two still have hope. You might even make excuses for them, thinking they’re busy.
Actually, sometimes you need to be clear-headed. When you make excuses for your partner, you’ve already lost. Don’t be too sentimental.
A woman over 40 should live for herself, not be too sentimental. There are many people in this world who aren’t worth it, and they’ll eventually pass us by.