I’ve always thought that women’s friendships are relatively superficial. Looking back, our parents’ generation had friends they’d known for years, and they’d often hang out together! However, it’s hard to find long-lasting female friendships like that.
In my opinion, there are two reasons for this. On the one hand, women are naturally jealous creatures who love to compare themselves to others. On the other hand, women often put all their energy into their families, prioritizing their husbands and kids over their friends, unlike some men who struggle to choose between their buddies and women.
To be blunt, women often prioritize men, while men tend to take women lightly. This is why women often focus on romantic relationships, while men might miss opportunities due to their hesitation. However, we also find that women can be reckless in their pursuit of love, sometimes using questionable means!
The term “third party” often refers to women, including “mistresses.” Is it because women lack morals? Of course not! It’s because women are more prone to blindness in their emotions, easily deceived, and once they invest their feelings, they can lose their bottom line. The root of all this is actually men. The destruction of male friendships often has the shadow of bad women, but more often, it’s due to power and desire!
However, the rivalry between female friends is often caused by men!
Two women, one in a passionate relationship, the other single. The woman in the relationship often shares her romantic stories with her single friend, not considering her friend’s feelings. You see, when it comes to being single, men might joke about it, but women take it as a personal tragedy, even shame.
So, when a female friend flaunts her happiness, the other might congratulate her on the surface but feel unhappy inside. The kinder friend might feel envious, while the not-so-kind one might add jealousy and hatred to the mix. Of course, not all women do this; some might even vent their frustrations to their friends. However, women are different from men; men can openly complain, but women won’t easily show their misfortunes, as they consider it a loss of face, unless their friend takes the initiative to care.
In reality, women who show off their love are proactive, while those who vent their frustrations are reactive. Sharing happiness is also reactive, but listening to a friend’s misfortunes and offering comfort is proactive, as women often complete each other through comparisons.
Don’t blindly believe that female friends are a reliable support system outside of men. The only one you can truly rely on is yourself, especially during the toughest times. If emotions can’t be mutually supportive, don’t waste your time. Only be good to those who are good to you, and only pay for those who pay for you. This applies to both men and women.
Sometimes, when women encounter relationship problems, their friends play the role of emotional ambassadors, mediating and reconciling. Over time, this becomes a habit. When men argue with their girlfriends, they start seeking comfort from their female friends, and eventually, they spend more time with their friends, sharing more secrets. As a result, women’s friendships disappear, and love disappears, as the female friend takes center stage. However, this ultimately still doesn’t work out, as the third party never feels secure, and a man who can betray his girlfriend with her friend is hardly reliable.
So, female friendships can be toxic, but this toxicity is avoidable.
Emotional issues between two people can only be resolved by themselves; friends cannot deeply intervene. If a couple’s problems rely on friends to resolve and mediate, over time, the man will start discussing the woman with her friends, and eventually, the woman will become the one who’s unreasonable, and the friend will be the understanding one. In the end, the man and the friend will naturally become a pair, and the woman will be unfairly eliminated, all because women give up their positions.
Women have a bad habit in love conflicts—they like to find excuses. When they’re not married, their friends are their excuse; after marriage, their family becomes their excuse. They care too much about what others think, hoping everyone will think they’re happy. However, they never think about how their friends feel when they constantly show off their love, and men constantly seek help from their friends.
Of course, some people might say that such men and friends are not worth having, but I think that if you always rely on your friends to solve your problems, you’ll only attract such men and friends!
Happiness belongs to two people and cannot be shared with friends. Otherwise, it becomes a show-off, and even the kindest friends will feel sad after seeing your happiness many times. Pain is also between two people; if friends want to comfort you, that’s okay, but solving problems cannot be delegated to others. Otherwise, friends won’t help you solve problems; they’ll solve you!