Are Women More Frustrated with “Sick Dogs” or Jerks?
In relationships, the most frustrating thing is either encountering a “sick dog” who is obsessed with you or a jerk who makes you feel miserable. So, women often wonder: where have all the normal guys gone?
Self-righteous Love Can Also Be Selfish
A “sick dog” is someone who showers their crush with excessive attention.
While it may seem harmless to show affection to someone you like, it can be fatal if that person is not interested. In many cases, it can even be considered harassment.
Some people would rather be hated than have someone constantly bothering them. In fact, some “sick dogs” might even engage in stalking behavior.
They often use phrases like “living in the moment” or “no regrets” to justify their actions, but in reality, they are just trying to get close to the person they like.
It’s hard to determine whether it’s more cruel to acknowledge reality or to blindly hold on to hope. Is it better to be realistic or to keep hoping?
Admitting that you’re not attractive to someone and choosing to move on can be liberating. On the other hand, some people prefer to be a “sick dog” and enjoy the thrill of the chase.
However, the problem lies in that they only consider their own feelings and ignore the other person’s boundaries.
True love should bring freedom, not constraints!
In relationships, if you start with a low profile and try to please the other person, you’ll likely end up with an unequal dynamic.
You’re not just giving up your self-respect, but also the right to be treated as an equal.
Sometimes, sincerity and good intentions can become a burden and constraint when viewed from a different perspective. That love can become blind and selfish.
Again, some people are obsessed with the idea of a perfect partner and try to fit someone into that mold, even if it’s not a good match.
In reality, many people beautify an image in their minds and try to fit someone into it, only to become trapped in their own expectations.
Why do we insist on holding onto someone who’s not right for us? Maybe it’s because we feel we don’t deserve better love.
Think about it. If someone is not suitable for you, they can’t give you the love you deserve, and you’ll only end up hurting yourself.
The Typical Jerk: No Initiative, No Rejection, No Responsibility
Jerks are notorious for their questionable behavior in love, but it’s hard to identify them because they’re often charming. Even when the consequences kick in, they’ll blame others and regret not listening to advice.
In reality, women can’t change jerks, but they can avoid them.
Jerks have different characteristics, but they can be summed up in three words: no initiative, no rejection, and no responsibility.
The most obvious trait of a jerk is that they make you feel uncertain about the relationship.
This uncertainty is exciting at first, but if it persists after the relationship is established, it’s a bad sign.
Jerks often hint at their interest but never make a clear move. They’re experts at giving mixed signals, making you think they’re shy or have unspoken feelings.
But when conflicts arise, they’ll easily back out. They never take responsibility and only think about their own gains.
They don’t regret hurting someone; they only worry about the consequences.
In a relationship, it’s essential to have genuine emotional investment. Jerks can control the outcome without putting in any effort.
Don’t judge someone based on superficial qualities; instead, look at their character.
Some people say not all bad men are jerks; only those who are charming and wealthy qualify. But that’s not true. Some people may not be charming, but they can still be jerks.
Don’t determine if someone is a jerk based on external factors. Instead, look at their behavior and character.
Pictures of “sick dogs” and jerks are essentially the same.
Someone once aptly described the difference between “sick dogs” and jerks: jerks are humans, while “sick dogs” are dogs. Humans eat leftover bones and give them to the dogs, who not only don’t mind but also find them delicious. (This analogy is not meant to be derogatory.)
This explanation highlights not only the difference between the two but also their ranking in women’s hearts: “sick dogs” will always be inferior to jerks.
At this point, we have to ask ourselves: what’s the point of comparing these two?
In relationships, we need a healthy partnership, not a comparison of two toxic relationships.
Moreover, from a certain perspective, “sick dogs” and jerks are essentially the same.
Both “sick dogs” and jerks fail to maintain a balanced relationship. They either use self-righteous sacrifices or fake affection to manipulate others.
In love, “sick dogs” and jerks are not superior to each other. What’s truly valuable is a heart that remains passionate and sincere.
