Everyone says women with small minds are hard to get along with, but the truth is, men with small minds can be just as difficult to deal with.
Men with small minds have unstable emotions
Different people react differently to the same situation.
For example, in a relationship, when a woman tells her boyfriend she needs to go on a business trip with a colleague due to work reasons, some boyfriends trust their girlfriends completely, while others become suspicious and paranoid.
It’s understandable that people have different experiences and personalities, but if a man is not only sensitive and suspicious in love but also nitpicky, jealous, face-conscious, and always thinks negatively in life, then he is probably a man with a small mind.
If a man is extremely petty, no matter how handsome, wealthy, or talented he is, you should never marry him.
Why?
Because a person’s attitude towards things determines what kind of life they will bring you. A person with a small mind will be influenced by many things, making him easily controlled by emotions and losing rationality.
Since emotions are inevitably intertwined with a couple’s life, as a girlfriend, you will naturally be affected by him.
Some may think that as long as two people love each other and he treats you well, it doesn’t matter if he’s petty.
While pettiness may not seem to have a big impact on a relationship on the surface, living in an environment where you are constantly worried about doing something wrong and upsetting him, needing to consider his feelings in everything, and constantly trying to fill his inner void, can you guarantee that you won’t be influenced by him?
Most people can’t do it.
So, do not easily marry a man with a small mind. Living with such a person will only make you more indecisive. You may end up surrounded by his negative emotions, becoming someone who struggles to control their emotions just like him.
What’s even scarier is if you encounter someone who is not only petty but also manipulative.
What’s more terrifying than pettiness is being both petty and manipulative
A man with a small mind may be unforgiving to others, but in reality, he is unforgiving to himself. At most, it leads to mutual internal consumption and harm.
But if a man is both petty and manipulative towards you, that’s calculating.
Having a petty husband can be terrifying. The neighbor initially admired her husband for being honest and loyal, overlooking his pettiness. However, as time went by, the neighbor found it exhausting to deal with such a person.
Even a joke would escalate into a serious matter, and every argument would bring up past grievances. What made the neighbor even more distressed was that whenever she interacted with a man, her husband would interrogate her about his name, how she knew him… treating the neighbor like a criminal.
If it was just pettiness, the neighbor could tolerate it. But the fact that he was not only petty but also manipulative.
When the neighbor achieved some success in her career, her husband tried to make her pregnant, resign from work; when she wanted to go to the gym after childbirth to regain her previous shape, her husband would say: “You’ve been through enough being pregnant, I don’t mind your figure.” He would even insinuate: “Are you so concerned about your figure for someone else?” To reassure her husband, the neighbor had to give up her weight loss plan.
What’s more, the husband deliberately cut off all social contact for the neighbor after childbirth.
The neighbor was unaware of these actions until she checked her husband’s computer for information and saw his chat records with his mother, which made everything clear.
Making the neighbor pregnant during a career peak was to avoid embarrassment in the marriage of a strong woman and a weak man; not allowing her to go to the gym was due to the high cost of the gym she chose; cutting off her social circle was for better control.
Fortunately, the neighbor discovered this in time and ended this relationship.
Many people have similar experiences as the neighbor, often feeling that the other person’s pettiness is just caring too much, lacking a sense of security. They believe that as long as they provide enough security, the relationship will become healthy.
But that’s not the case. People with both a small mind and manipulative tendencies will exploit this mentality in women, making them willingly controlled and eventually becoming a “caged bird” unable to fly away.
When people in love lack equality in character, and their relationship becomes dependent, love becomes a charity. Dependency will eventually become a matter of course, and charity will inevitably become a necessity.
The secret to long-lasting relationships is always sincerity
What is a small mind?
Some say having too many schemes is cunning, having too few is naive. When dealing with people, you need to be sincere yet cautious. Too much, and no one will get close to you; too little, and you will be bullied. Using schemes against bad people is justice; using schemes against good people is malice. The worst thing when interacting with people is when I pour my heart out to you, but you show no sincerity in return, or when I am open with you, but you play mind games.
This hits home.
If someone can constantly scheme, take advantage, and benefit in a relationship, it doesn’t mean they are smart. After all, no one is a fool, it’s just that the other person chooses to trust and not be on guard.
Those who can be deceived by you first chose to trust you. People can be selfish, but they shouldn’t be shameless.
You should understand that using bad intentions towards someone who sincerely loves you, supports you unconditionally, is the height of foolishness.
So, if someone treats you with sincerity, don’t play games; if someone loves you unconditionally, don’t take advantage; if someone cares for you deeply, don’t betray them.
Even if one day you fall out of love, be honest with the other person, instead of being ambiguous and hurting both yourself and them.
Of course, a man who genuinely loves should be upright, and a woman who falls in love should also respect herself.