A woman with thoughts, skills, personality, and insight can live a full life in this world. She makes her life feel spacious and elegant, classic and graceful. If you can do the following three things, you’ll definitely be a thoughtful, cultivated woman in life.
Your Talent is Your Biggest Thing
“If a person doesn’t have any special talents, they should try to be unique, to be noticed.”
Life is full of bumps and potholes. Some people become self-pitying in the face of difficulties and can’t pull themselves out of their pain.
But some people get stronger in the face of difficulties. Their confidence makes you quickly go from feeling sorry for them to admiring them.
But if you observe carefully, you’ll quickly notice a pattern. Those who rise above difficulties and setbacks are those who have something special about them. They have personalities and the ability to think for themselves and judge the pros and cons of things.
So, women with special talents are more likely to pull themselves out of difficult situations or life setbacks quickly. Because talent is the medicine that everyone can use to save themselves.
It’s the most effective straw we grab onto when we’re self-doubting.
How to Love Yourself Better
I remember at a friend’s get-together, a mother with a child on her lap looked completely down. I learned from another friend that she was very wealthy and her husband was a successful businessman.
But her appearance and clothing gave people the first impression of a fat, out-of-shape woman with a sloppy, mismatched outfit. She kept complaining during dinner.
Overall, you couldn’t see any happiness on her face, but you could sense that she was definitely a good, thrifty housewife. Yes, this is the norm for a woman who has lost herself, regardless of her economic status.
Because these women focus all their attention on their husbands and children. They’ve forgotten how to love themselves and pay attention to themselves. The attitude of their husbands and children towards them determines how these women feel.
Now let’s look at Zhang Ailing’s daily life. From the photos she left behind, you can see that she was a very refined woman.
Whether she was rich or down on her luck, her clothes were always clean and neat, her figure slender, her makeup exquisite, and her aura exuded confidence.
She experienced the ups and downs of life over the years, and I’m sure we can’t understand or experience them the way she did, but she lived out her own personality.
She seemed like a very ordinary person, but she lived a very extraordinary life. So, women in life should learn to love themselves, so they can better love their family, relatives, and friends.
Loving yourself doesn’t mean spending money and dressing yourself extravagantly. Loving yourself means seeing your strengths, thinking for yourself, and thoughtfully managing your career and family.
Learn to Accept Imperfection, Perfection is Not a Dream
You always feel like your life is full of holes and doesn’t fit in with perfection. But when you hear an 80-year-old describe their life, you’ll truly understand what a fulfilling life is.
At a friend’s house, I met my friend’s 80-year-old grandparents. The two old people were as lively as a pair of playful kittens. They drank water from the same cup. The grandpa kept muttering that the grandma didn’t have long arms, but he still refilled her tea after she finished.
My friend told me, “You won’t believe it, but Grandpa and Grandma were divorced once. At the time, Grandpa, who was a teacher, looked down on Grandma because she was unsophisticated and uneducated. But later, when Dad got sick, Grandma took care of him day and night, and they got back together.”
Although Grandma often held this against Grandpa, he always listened patiently, and their relationship got better and better.
Yes, on the long road of life, couples always encounter problems of one kind or another. This is perhaps the imperfection of life, isn’t it? Just like Zhang Ailing’s two marriages and a heart-wrenching love affair.
This woman who spent her whole life pursuing perfection wasn’t she always patching together the fragments of life? When she reached the end, she let go.
And what we remember forever are her beautiful, spiritual, and realistic words that resonate with people’s hearts.