If someone genuinely cares for you in this lifetime, you must treasure them dearly and never hurt them, because people who truly care for you are hard to come by, and some people may turn their backs on you forever once they’re hurt.
In relationships and marriage, when someone is good to you, you must recognize that they’re not doing it because they owe you anything, but because fate has brought you together; so, you can’t take their kindness for granted, thinking it’s only natural, and not show gratitude or appreciation, or even use their kindness as a weapon to hurt them.
When you’re tempted outside of your relationship, think about whether your conscience can bear hurting someone who truly cares for you; even if you don’t consider your conscience, think about the reality—is it worth losing the best person in your life over a moment of infidelity?
The answer is definitely no, it’s not worth it, but why do many people still choose to do so? Because they’re overconfident.
There are many small things in life where you can be overconfident, like buying a lucky box or something; but when it comes to marriage, which affects your lifelong happiness and determines your fate, being overconfident can lead to unfortunate consequences.
After being hurt and betrayed in a marriage, many people may appear weak and vulnerable; they might temporarily compromise in the relationship, and even beg you to stay, sacrificing their self-respect.
At this point, you might still be complacent, thinking, “Look, I betrayed them, and now they’re begging me.” But if you still don’t wake up and continue to betray them, the person you hurt might rise up and leave you, and you’ll lose them forever.
One day, the person you hurt will finally stand up and leave you, not because you gave up on them, but because they’ve abandoned you, firmly and decisively, without any hesitation or regret. People who are deeply hurt often become ruthless. And this ruthlessness, to some extent, is a result of your relentless pursuit.
Betrayal is like a stick that knocks someone unconscious; during that time, the person is in a state of numbness, but once they wake up and complete their self-redemption, the outcome is that you’ll lose them, and lose them completely.
There’s a law in the emotional world: the deeper someone loved you initially, the more thorough their revenge will be!
Because they’ve exhausted all their efforts, they’ve paid the maximum price to save the relationship, and they’ve let go. This process is an absolute torment for them, and they won’t want to relive it, not even for a moment, so they won’t give you another chance.
Those who ultimately divorce due to emotional betrayal will often regret it, but they might still choose to deceive and numb themselves, just like you did when you betrayed them—however, neither you nor they can ultimately deceive themselves.
Because betrayal is ultimately a kind of spiritual loss, and people will eventually regain their rationality, and at that time, you’ll realize that everything is truly not worth it, and your fate is truly a result of your own doing.
As the movie “The Crossing” says:
“I’ll tell you what’s most pitiful—you meet someone, make a mistake, want to make up for it, want to clear your name, but ultimately, you’re powerless, and the mistakes you’ve made can never be undone, and the debts you owe can never be repaid…”