Marriage is often said to be a lock, locking up the small family home. If one day, you have the key to this home but discover true emotions for someone else, what’s the best way to handle it?
Emotions have no right or wrong, no reasons needed. Love and not loving are both unconditional. If you’ve already started a family but still develop true emotions for someone else, it might be better to deal with it.
Completely Cut Off, No More Contact
Maybe someone will say that love comes unexpectedly, like a sudden attack. If you already have a family but develop true emotions for someone else, it’s like spiritual infidelity. If you let your desires take over, it will only bring greater harm to yourself and your family.
Lily and Alex, two college friends, had a love like overcoming five mountains and six passes. They finally entered the palace of marriage, and everyone was happy for them.
After marriage, Alex quit his job to start a small business with friends, hoping to give Lily a better life. He had to travel the world to find suppliers, and only spent three or four days at home each month.
Lily knew Alex was working hard, so she lived a life of separation. Life is unpredictable, and Lily felt lonely without Alex’s company. Sometimes, she’d eat alone, shop alone, and even suffer through menstrual cramps alone.
Lily thought it was all too difficult, wishing Alex could be by her side. However, Alex was often busy with work and social events, and that’s when a young intern, who Lily mentored, appeared.
The intern was clever and helped Lily with many tasks. Later, Lily found out that her husband was often away, and the intern would take care of some household chores, like changing light bulbs and fixing pipes. As time passed, Lily developed feelings for the intern.
Sometimes, Lily wouldn’t talk to Alex when she was unhappy but would confide in the intern. When she was on her period, the intern would buy her medicine and cook her red sugar water. Lily had the illusion that living with the intern might be happier than with Alex, but she quickly dismissed the thought.
After a long internal struggle, Lily decided to quit her job, even though Alex needed her stable income. Lily knew that if she continued working and interacting with the intern, the consequences would be unimaginable.
So, Lily resolutely quit her job and deleted all contact with the intern, clearing everything like throwing away trash.
Shift Focus, Travel with Family, and Strengthen Emotions
I think the main reason people get emotional affairs is due to emotional voids. If you develop true emotions after marriage, try traveling with your family, rekindling the sweetness of your first love, and filling that emotional void.
Rocky thought he was a faithful man after marriage, but he still fell for his beautiful colleague. However, Rocky valued his family and marriage, so when he realized his emotional infidelity, he immediately stopped.
Before Valentine’s Day, Rocky booked two tickets to A City and took his wife on a trip, rekindling their romantic feelings. This refilled their emotional void, and Rocky’s feelings for his wife changed, making external temptations disappear.
Emotions are simple; they arise from emotional voids. To avoid such voids, we must strive to fill our emotions. Marriage is a responsibility, a lock that binds us to our family. Once we choose marriage and family, we must learn to take responsibility for it.