I saw a saying a while back that really made me think. If someone always does good deeds, but one day does something bad, people will think they’re hypocrites and that everything they did before was just an act!
On the other hand, if someone always does bad things, but one day does something good, people will think they’re not so bad after all, and maybe there was a reason for their past behavior!
What’s wrong with this world? It seems like we should get to know someone or something over a long period before defining them, but in reality, we often define them hastily and then discover later that it wasn’t like that at all. This leads to pain and disappointment. If we overturn our previous definition, it’s like overturning our own judgment. But if we continue to just go along with it, we’ll pay the emotional price. It’s a dilemma!
Women often complain that men change, that they used to be so loving but now don’t care. But this complaint is pointless!
It’s human nature to get tired of the same old thing and seek novelty. It’s a rule that after the honeymoon phase, relationships enter a period of mundane daily life. No matter how beautiful a woman is, it’s unrealistic to expect her to maintain her charm forever in front of a fixed man!
Some women say that’s because men are naturally attracted to beauty, and they get bored after a while. So, women need to maintain their beauty and take good care of themselves to avoid losing their charm with age. However, this is not enough. If men are only attracted to beauty, then with so many beautiful women out there, no matter how well a woman takes care of herself, there will always be someone newer and more beautiful.
So, women say they need to focus not only on their appearance but also on their inner selves, learning and striving to progress every day. This will naturally make them more attractive to men because they’re always changing!
However, this is easier said than done. On one hand, women need to maintain their appearance, and on the other hand, they need to constantly improve themselves. But in reality, there are many practical problems that women face, such as working, taking care of the family, and dealing with conflicts between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law. Not every woman can be a beauty and a career woman, with both inner and outer beauty!
This is why many women who take courses on “Women’s Inspirational Lives” are often rich ladies who have the time and money to focus on their charm and beauty. But even if they do, they often can’t achieve the elegance they want because they lack cultural refinement and are often rough around the edges. And most women don’t have the money or time to take these courses, even if they do, they don’t have the conditions to put what they learn into practice because they’re too busy making a living!
In my opinion, maintaining one’s outer beauty and inner elegance is necessary, but it’s not the most important thing!
To keep a man attracted to you for a long time, it’s not about making him surround you, look at you, and say sweet nothings every day. Any man can’t do that, and women who expect this will only face disappointment because it goes against reason!
The most beautiful love is about being evenly matched.
Take care of yourself and improve yourself; that’s the most important thing.
Some methods only work for certain men, and all conditions should be tailored to the individual.
Love yourself, become excellent, and you’ll meet an excellent man.
When that happens, those who know how to cherish you will love you even more. If you meet someone who doesn’t know how to love, even if you’re excellent, they’ll still hurt you.
The real way to make a man unable to leave you is to make him form an invisible dependence on you!
This dependence is not just about taking care of daily life or financial dependence, nor is it about physical attraction or sexual pleasure. It’s about the man’s habitual desire to talk to you, to ask you things, and to rely on you. He might not see you every day, but if he suddenly realizes you’re not by his side, he’ll feel anxious and lost! He wants to lean on you, not because he has any specific problem, but because being with you is when he feels most relaxed!
If I describe it like this, women might say it’s too idealistic, that it’s not human, but a goddess! But if you ask those couples who have been married for decades, the husbands probably feel this way about their wives. They’re not goddesses, just ordinary women.