If your partner got scammed, how would you react?
I guess most people would scold their partner for being stupid, while also feeling a bit sympathetic. But I’m curious, why do we blame the victim instead of the scammer? Can we guarantee that we’ll never be deceived in our lifetime?
Because nobody wants to admit their own foolishness, and everyone wants to appear smart. If we didn’t blame our partner but instead condemned the scammer, we’d be considered foolish. But is being considered smart really that happy?
Let’s think carefully; many of our sufferings come from pretending to be smart. If we could be a little more naive, we might feel more happiness!
Ben fell in love with his coworker Tina, but he was too shy to confess. One day, Tina was harassed by a thug at the factory gate, and Ben, despite his small stature, bravely rushed to rescue her, getting beaten up in the process. Although he failed to save the day, he won Tina’s heart. Tina thought Ben was a brave and dependable man, worthy of trust.
The two started dating, and Ben was very good to Tina, being meticulous and considerate. However, their happiness was short-lived. Although Ben’s honesty was an advantage, sometimes it bordered on foolishness. He got scammed when buying a house, buying a fake phone, and even buying fake concert tickets. Tina thought Ben was unreliable, lacked social experience, and was immature, so she broke up with him.
Ben was helpless, and although he didn’t want to be deceived, everything he did was to please Tina. Buying a house was to give Tina a better place to live, buying a phone was to replace Tina’s iPhone, and buying concert tickets was because Tina loved a particular celebrity. It wasn’t for personal gain, but due to his limited budget, he took shortcuts and got scammed. No matter how Ben explained, Tina was determined to leave, leaving Ben heartbroken.
Perhaps Ben would never become very clever, but I believe that if he met a woman who truly loved him, he wouldn’t be deceived again. Perhaps Ben would never be successful, but he wouldn’t be a man who deceived women’s emotions.
Some people say that Tina was too practical or not caring enough, but any woman has the right to pursue a stable life and find a capable man. The premise of happiness is that the man loves you, doesn’t deceive you, and works hard, even if not clever. If lacking these, the more successful the man, the farther away he’ll be, and the more he’ll deceive you.
Ben’s foolishness came from pretending to be smart, which brought him suffering. But at least he did it for love. Tina couldn’t see Ben’s efforts and thought that finding a clever and capable man was more reliable. She gave up a man who wholeheartedly loved her and a true emotional connection. Isn’t that also a kind of foolishness?
Isn’t the most precious thing in love a sincere heart?
If Tina had been more patient and caring, telling Ben that as long as they were together, they could be happy regardless of the size of their house or the type of phone they used, Ben wouldn’t have gotten scammed. If they lived a simple life, without taking shortcuts, Ben wouldn’t have been deceived.
Nowadays, some women think that they can change their fate through marriage, but in the end, they realize that successful men are not fools. They can’t just enjoy the fruits of others’ labor without going through hardship together. That’s just a dream, and in the end, they still have to rely on themselves!
People shouldn’t be foolish, but they should gain wisdom through learning. However, you’ll find that in emotional relationships, true wisdom is often not being too clever! Those who always treat others as fools can’t have true love. It’s those who are willing to pay attention, care, and love sincerely, like making breakfast for you in the morning and covering you with a blanket at night, who are truly loving.
The key to a happy marriage is for two “fools” to stick together!
When choosing a partner, look for their flaws during courtship and see if you can accept them. After marriage, look for their strengths and discover the small joys in everyday life. Unfortunately, many people do it the other way around.
There are no shortcuts in life. If there were, it would be taking things one step at a time!