In the past, many people got married without even meeting their partner in person, relying solely on matchmakers’ words. On the day of the wedding, the two people might be meeting for the first time.
However, in today’s society, people interact with each other more frequently, and social development is accelerating. The distance between people is no longer so far, and communication has become more intimate.
Apart from face-to-face interactions, we can use various electronic devices, such as computers and phones, to understand someone’s personality and detect their attitude towards us.
A famous painter and writer, Wang Meng, once said, “One cannot have an arrogant attitude, but one must have an arrogant backbone.” As humans, whether in our careers or emotional lives, we cannot lower our posture too much, or we won’t get what we want, and might even suffer losses.
The renowned writer, Zhang Ailing, said, “Fallen flowers can still bloom again.” This means that even if someone has given up on love, they can still bloom again. However, if someone shows no interest in you and indicates that there’s no future, then don’t bother.
We’re Not Suitable
One evening, a classmate suddenly sent me a message, saying that a guy she liked told her they weren’t suitable.
When I heard this, I felt that the guy probably wasn’t interested in my classmate, and I wanted to advise her to give up. However, I didn’t know what to do at the time.
In fact, I wanted to say that if someone tells you this, especially a guy, as a girl, you should just walk away.
Years ago, Eason Chan sang in a song, “What you can’t get is always in turmoil, and what you’re biased towards has no fear.”
When you’re biased towards someone, some people might not even care, and become extremely arrogant. When we encounter such people, we should kick them away and turn around calmly.
Sometimes, when someone says they’re not suitable, it’s not because the two people really aren’t suitable. It’s just that they’re looking for an excuse to leave. If someone says this to you, you don’t need to explain; just say you also think you’re not suitable, and then delete them.
I Don’t Want to Talk About Love
If someone tells you they don’t want to talk about love, it’s not that they don’t want to talk about love, but that they don’t want to talk about love with you.
When someone says they don’t want to talk about love, it means they have no interest in you. Don’t keep hoping that they’ll come around.
Guo Jingming once said, “Those who like you won’t make you wait; those who don’t like you won’t come to you no matter how long you wait.”
In this world, there’s no such thing as a man chasing a woman across mountains or a woman chasing a man across layers of obstacles. If someone says they don’t want to talk about love, then delete them!
You’re a Good Person, You’ll Find Someone Better
This phrase is familiar to everyone. When someone says this, it’s like giving you a “good person card.” Some people, when faced with emotions, will refuse the other person but still be kind-hearted.
They don’t want to hurt the other person, so they’ll first praise them and then express their true feelings. The key point is not that you’re a good person, but the sentence that follows.
I had a friend who was pursued by a guy from another class, but she didn’t like him. She thought he was a bit arrogant, and she didn’t like that kind of personality.
One day, the guy brought flowers and stood at the art academy’s entrance, shouting loudly. My friend couldn’t resist and went down to talk to him. She said, “You’re a good person, but I’m not good enough for you, and you’ll find someone better.”
The guy was very clever and felt that my friend had already rejected him. He turned around and said, “I don’t want to be a good person; I want to be a bad person.” The girl laughed, and their emotions became more intimate. However, in the end, they remained friends and didn’t become lovers.
So, if someone looks down on you and gives you a “good person card,” no matter how hard you try, you’ll only be friends at best.
I’m Busy, Don’t Bother Me Anymore
In “Love Protection,” an emotional expert said, “A person’s time is completely dependent on their feelings. Time is like water in a sponge, and it can always be squeezed out.”
In today’s society, many people are extremely busy, but when we meet important people, we’ll still make time to see them.
If someone sends a message saying they’re busy and don’t even have time to chat with you, it means they don’t want to waste their time on you.
As an adult, you must learn to respect yourself and not let others say they’re busy. At that point, you don’t need to contact them again.