We’ve all been there. You meet someone, and you immediately start judging them. You look at their clothes, their jewelry, their overall appearance and try to figure out if they’re worth your time.
But what’s really going on behind these judgments?
Hidden Time
Top-tier people usually only choose beautiful people. A pretty face is a sign of high status, according to Gili Cooper. She says that “Generally speaking, good-looking people move up, marrying people of higher social status, while people who lack security and are ugly usually marry people from their own social class.” This is just raw human nature. This lays the foundation for them to have a good-looking next generation without wasting time.
“The pure elegance of the exterior is a reflection of the pure and beautiful heart.”
Appearance determines the foundation of first impressions. If Juliet was ugly, Shakespeare wouldn’t have bothered writing her. If someone looks plain, people assume their soul is just as plain.
If you had a conversation with a stranger without looking at their appearance, it’s like reading an article with bad handwriting. You probably wouldn’t think the content is great either. The old saying goes, “Seeing the writing is like seeing the person.” If someone doesn’t care about their image, no one will have the patience to read their heart.
Especially in today’s society, there’s a common understanding: time is money. If you meet someone who isn’t good-looking and doesn’t dress well, you’re going to need to spend a lot of time getting to know them. You’ll need time to communicate and get to know them deeply. How much time will that cost?
So it’s not hard to understand why people in the workplace judge others by their looks. When we go out and meet people, we subconsciously gravitate towards those who are better looking.
A Distorted Sense of Beauty
“Don’t judge a book by its cover.”
Many old sayings and experiences tell us not to make judgments too quickly, not to be blind, and not to judge people by their looks. We shouldn’t judge someone’s abilities or worth based on their appearance.
But today, there’s a new voice in society that says, “Looks can affect your career.” This is even more apparent in marriage. People who aren’t pretty or handsome don’t get married. They want a prince charming or a Snow White in their lives. This is a bad value system that needs to be eliminated from society.
Today, in our diverse society, many people are losing themselves. Young people especially are lost. They’ve lost their values and their sense of beauty. As a result, they often make rash judgments about people. Their values become distorted, and their sense of beauty becomes twisted. They judge someone by their looks first and then by their talent. This has created a bad atmosphere in society.
This atmosphere is even more evident in universities and in social hiring. For example, during job allocation, a group of students waits for a leader to come and inspect them. The leader picks the pretty female students, and the rest of the students, who are plain-looking, are sent to the factory. This experience had a huge impact on the girls. It took them a long time to overcome their self-doubt.
Especially for girls, discrimination is not just limited to employment. It follows them into their jobs. They face discrimination based on their hometown, their school, their work experience, and so on.
Even worse, some job postings openly discriminate based on looks. For example, airlines explicitly state that applicants should be “good-looking and have a good temperament.” This makes many aspiring flight attendants feel unfair.
Gold shines in any time, any place. We not only have hard-core skills and abilities, but we also have good looks, which is a bonus. We should cherish that.
If you’re not good-looking, you should focus on enriching yourself. Arm yourself with knowledge. Fill yourself with knowledge. That kind of person will always be beautiful.
Judging by Looks Isn’t Always Superficial
Dr. Rob Jenkins, a psychologist at the University of Glasgow, believes that personality can be expressed through appearance due to genetics. There are also social factors that influence how people perceive themselves. If people think you’re “honest,” you’ll eventually start to think of yourself as honest.
When someone has a bad personality or low intelligence, it’s written all over their face. You can’t help but wonder, “How do they even go out?” Why do they go out or why don’t they wear a mask when they go out? And some faces just make you feel uncomfortable when you see them.
In this era, we can’t avoid being “face-obsessed.” We all love beauty, but judging by looks isn’t as simple as it seems. She’s not a internet celebrity face, but being with her is comfortable. He’s so handsome, but he feels distant. A person’s inner self eventually shows on their face.
We fall in love with someone’s looks, but we stay for their talent. Looks are important, but they’re not enough. Time changes everything, but your talent and self-cultivation won’t fade away. So looks are important, but self-cultivation is even more important.
You only taste the true flavor of a wine when you take the first sip. When we first see someone, we get an objective impression of their appearance, which allows us to decipher their personality traits. If your conversation isn’t good, even the most beautiful appearance will break your first impression.
There’s a saying: “Appearance hides not only your life but also the life you’re pursuing.”
If your soul is high, your appearance will not be bad. If your heart has rivers, you will not be ordinary.
So, on our journey through life, we need to take care of our appearance. Our face is like a mirror that reflects a person’s true cultivation and taste, as well as their true quality of life. We should not only strive for the right values, but we should also take care of our appearance and have goals in life.