“To find one heart and grow old together.” How many young couples long for a beautiful marriage life! Ask yourself, in this world, which couple just entering the palace of marriage doesn’t have a good heart? Don’t they want to hold hands with their lover for life, grow old together?
But as time goes by, how come the two hearts that love each other change? Is it you who doesn’t love me anymore, or is it me who doesn’t love you anymore? Actually, marriage is a mirror that reflects each other. May every pair of hands that are held together be able to love each other for a lifetime, not forgetting their original intentions and starting point.
Facing Each Other, Reflecting Each Other
There were two hunters who, because of their poor hunting skills, could only catch one rabbit every day. Hunter A’s wife always complained in her heart when she saw the prey her husband had brought back.
As time went on, Hunter A felt less and less confident. Thinking about his wife’s ridicule and his children’s disdain, he had less and less energy when he went hunting. Of course, their lives became poorer and poorer.
Hunter B’s wife, however, was always happy when she saw the rabbit her husband brought back. She said to their children, “Look, your father is the hero of our family. He can get us rabbit meat to eat every day and warm rabbit fur clothes to wear in the winter.”
Her wife’s praise and her children’s respect always made Hunter B feel like he had endless energy. His hunting skills improved and he caught more and more prey. Of course, their lives got better and better, and their children all became successful.
In fact, couples are facing each other, reflecting each other. When you give your partner praise and respect, your partner will also maximize their strengths. In the mirror, you will always see each other’s smiles and happiness.
Turning Your Back on Each Other, Ignoring Each Other
Lovers in love will paint a romantic picture of their backs to each other. Back to back, we may not be able to hug, but we can lean on each other.
But when couples in marriage often turn their backs on each other, then their marriage is likely to hit a reef. Is it the pressure of life, the busyness of work, that wears away each other’s romance? Or is it that after the passion fades, the bland life can no longer stir up the waves of love in their hearts?
I have always disagreed with people who describe marriage this way: Two people, living and living, turn their love into family affection, a feeling of holding each other’s left hand with their right hand.
But I have always believed that the two people in a marriage are a combination of love and family affection, because the love between husband and wife in a happy marriage is the best proof.
Those marriages that are only maintained by family affection, because they have lost the nourishment of love, are often the most fragile, because you find that you have no motivation to love. Once something external invades, the marriage will crumble.
Therefore, those couples who plan their marriage and use wisdom to manage their marriage, will never feel like they have said enough sweet words to each other. They will always be happy to say words of praise to each other.
If couples want to maintain a good family relationship, they must remember to go home and don’t just turn your back on each other. Don’t just think about your own feelings and ignore your partner’s feelings. Over time, your hearts will grow further and further apart, and your love will gradually disappear.
You know, love is like a bank. If we only withdraw and don’t deposit, the love we deposit will gradually be withdrawn, and when there is nothing left to withdraw, the marriage will also turn red.
Turn Around, Chase the Back, Meet Yourself
There was a couple who fought all day long, feeling that they couldn’t go on living like this. They agreed to walk a hundred steps back to back. If they could still see each other when they turned around, they would make up. If they couldn’t, they would get a divorce.
When the wife got to ninety-nine steps, she suddenly stopped and crouched down to cry. At this time, a pair of warm hands wrapped around her from behind. “I’m sorry, I’ve been turning my back on you for too many years, so I haven’t seen your dedication to the family.”
It turned out that when the two people walked back to back, they began to reflect on themselves. So, when the wife got to ninety-nine steps, she couldn’t go on. The husband, on the other hand, turned around and ran straight towards his wife’s back.
Family is not a place to reason, it is a place to love. But how many families, often, are just trying to win, and refuse to give in. It’s as if if you give in during an argument, your partner will be on top of you, and you won’t be able to hold your head up in front of him. This kind of psychology will naturally make your marriage enter a vicious cycle.
Therefore, the most important thing in a marriage is to learn to put yourself in your partner’s shoes, to think about things from your partner’s point of view. In this way, when you get along, you will find that you are becoming more and more relaxed, you will see more and more of your partner’s strengths, and your own happiness will naturally increase.
In marriage, couples are mirrors to each other. When you smile at him in the mirror, he in the mirror will also be smiling at you.
When you say to him, “Thank you for the happiness you have given me,” he will also say to you, “Thank you for the happiness you have given me.”
When you say to him, “Thank you for your companionship,” he will also say to you, “Thank you for your companionship.”