Time is merciless, beauty fades easily, and the more beautiful a woman is, the more she fears that she will become old and ugly as time passes.
So, many women start to focus on self-care after they turn 25, and they work hard to maintain their “girlishness” after they reach middle age.
Especially now, many actresses and female celebrities look very young even though they are over forty, and they can even play teenage roles because they take good care of themselves. So, the word “girlishness” has become very popular.
However, in daily life, many people have a misconception about “girlishness.”
The daughter of Mrs. Zhao, who lives next door, graduated from college this year. Mrs. Zhao is in her middle age, and she has lost the naivety of her youth. She is at a graceful age. But Mrs. Zhao is very concerned about aging. She strictly controls her figure and loves to buy pink clothes. She dresses in whatever way makes her look young.
Although Mrs. Zhao has almost no gray hair and no wrinkles on her face, the traces of time still remain in her eyes. After all, she is a mother. Her demeanor is not as light and carefree as a real young girl.
She posted a photo of her and her daughter on social media with the caption: “I am 22 this year, and my mom says she will always be 18.”
Although it’s a joke, it does seem like that’s how Mrs. Zhao lives her life. It’s good to have a youthful mindset, but girlishness isn’t just about pursuing appearances. It’s a truly youthful mindset.
Some people don’t like girlishness because they think it means being childish and immature. They also think it means lacking charm.
But around us, girlishness has gradually become a popular aesthetic trend. Women love to be complimented on looking young.
Actually, age isn’t our enemy. Teenage girls have a cute and innocent side, but middle-aged women have become wiser and more charming because of the accumulation and sedimentation of time.
Wrinkles are naturally formed as time passes. We can’t resist them, but everyone can make their inner self stay young through their own efforts.
True “girlishness” is a mindset. It’s about being curious about life and hopeful for the future, no matter how old you are. It’s about being positive and optimistic about life every day.
The opposite of “girlishness” is the way many middle-aged women talk about their lives: “Life is boring.” They only revolve around their husbands and children. They spend their days doing housework, playing cards, or surfing the internet. They let themselves become messy and don’t care about their appearance. They don’t care that they have more wrinkles and gray hair.
If you want to maintain a youthful mindset, the following points are essential.
Be Calm and Positive When Facing Challenges
Being calm and composed in the face of challenges is a skill we don’t have when we’re young.
Most people are impulsive when they are young, and women are especially prone to being emotional. But by middle age, we have experienced a lot of things and seen some storms. This gives us better mental strength and emotional management and regulation skills. We can handle unexpected events more calmly and easily maintain optimism. We won’t be emotionally devastated by things.
Only when we don’t panic can we find the most suitable way to make the right choices. We won’t make decisions that we regret because of a moment of excitement or helplessness.
If we have fewer regrets, we will feel more positive. A good mood can make our minds more relaxed and younger. This isn’t just about our appearance, it’s from the inside out, reflected in every move we make.
Have a Mature and Independent Mind
Don’t think that a mature woman will look older.
Imagine a woman over 30 or even older who frowns and pouts every time she encounters something and says, “I don’t know how to do this,” or “I can’t do that.” Does she really have a girlish feel?
It’s likely to make people speechless because they are showing a childishness that doesn’t match their age, or they are simply pretending to be innocent and ignorant.
As women reach middle age, they should also learn to become more mature to make themselves more charming. It doesn’t have to be about their appearance, but their hearts shouldn’t be too childish.
In fact, those mature women in their middle age seem younger than those who are simply childish.
This is because as we age, the environment, society, and family around us make more and more demands on us. The things we need to face and the problems we need to handle become more complex.
Young girls can be ignorant, but when we become wives and mothers, and become the mistress of a family, we have to face many responsibilities and bear many burdens.
To handle these things, mature women are more decisive and more capable. Therefore, they live more easily than those who are simply childish. They are not entangled in trivial matters and are not too busy to cope, which makes them appear younger. They also have more time and energy to do what they like, maintain a better mindset, and a good mindset can make them look full of vitality and have the true “girlishness” that many people pursue.
Have a Strong Inner Self
How strong our inner self is determines how many challenges and difficulties we can face.
People encounter similar problems in life, but some people face them calmly, while others complain constantly. Many times, it’s not because we encounter a huge problem, but because our abilities are not enough to cope, and our minds can’t bear it.
No matter how old you are, making your inner self strong is the key to a happy life.
Women with strong inner selves usually don’t care too much about their age, because they believe that their abilities, charm, and value are not only reflected in their beautiful appearance, nor are they limited by age. They radiate from the inside out.
The things we experience in growing up, the obstacles we overcome, the books we read, the people we love, the roads we travel, the scenery we see, and the strong inner self that we cultivate as a result are a woman’s greatest asset.
The most beautiful and memorable part of adolescence is the vitality and confidence we had at the time. Whether in middle age or old age, women with strong inner selves can always be energetic and confident.
Women can have gray hair and wrinkles on their faces, but they must have a strong heart. Only by constantly strengthening ourselves can we face life happily and always maintain the joy of our youth.
This is the truly meaningful “girlishness,” the “girlishness” that can belong to any age group.