Ice Heart once said, “I’m just an ordinary person, and I only seek ordinary happiness.”
In reality, we all have beautiful expectations for love, but not all love stories have a perfect ending. Many women, once trapped in love, are like moths to a flame, unaware that men can be terrifyingly rational at times.
Liu Meng and her boyfriend had been dating for six years. They were college classmates who decided to work in the same city after graduation. Initially, they didn’t have much money, so they shared a damp basement apartment with others.
At that time, their living conditions were tough, but Liu Meng was extremely happy. Every month, they looked forward to payday, and Liu Meng’s greatest hope was to save money and get married to this man. To save up, she worked day and night, didn’t dare buy makeup, and didn’t dare buy nice clothes. She persisted in this lifestyle for three years.
Originally, they thought they would continue to live happily ever after, but the appearance of another girl broke their harmony.
For a girl he had just met three months prior, her boyfriend asked Liu Meng to break up with him. Liu Meng couldn’t accept it, as she couldn’t understand why her boyfriend would do this to her. He only said, “If I don’t love you, I just don’t.”
When Liu Meng heard this, her heart was shattered, as she had thought this man loved her deeply. Now, his cold attitude left her extremely sorrowful. Yu Qiuyu once said, “Liking someone is always joyful, but loving someone will often bring tears.”
When facing emotions, we also have too many helplessness.
It’s precisely because of this sentence that we women are awakened: we must love ourselves well and not give up too much for a man. When a man loves you, he might be extremely attentive, but when he doesn’t love you, he can be extremely ruthless.
As girls, only when we understand these principles can we find more happiness belonging to ourselves.
Love Cannot be Impulsive
San Mao once said, “If love doesn’t manifest in practical life, such as eating, dressing, and sleeping, it won’t last.”
When we first fall in love, we might be deeply in love, but impulsive love is not love. When someone truly loves you, they will tell you what it means to be gentle and caring.
Love cannot rely on impulses, for if someone loves you deeply, their emotions will be intense. For a woman, choosing a marriage is choosing a lifestyle.
Time will tell if a man truly loves you. If you’re with someone just because of a momentary impulse, you’ll regret it in the end.
Love is Tolerance
Yu Qiuyu once said, “Loving someone means tolerating their flaws.”
There’s no perfect person in this world, and in the emotional realm, there’s no perfect person either. However, when two people are together, they must learn to tolerate each other to gain more happiness.
For a woman, what she wants is a man’s gentle companionship. When a man understands how to be tolerant and accommodating, you can believe that he loves you.
Everyone is selfish, but someone who truly loves you will always put you first.
A person’s actions will tell you if they truly love you. When someone learns to tolerate you, your love will become more beautiful.
Don’t Rely on Others
Master Xingyun once said, “If you let go, no one is unique, and suffering will no longer entangle you.”
In the emotional realm, there’s too much helplessness. Sometimes we can’t let go of someone because we can’t release ourselves. There’s no one who will be your savior in the emotional realm. A woman’s highest level of independence is not relying on a man to live.
In our lifetime, we’ll encounter various people, but not everyone will treat us sincerely. In emotions, it’s the same principle. If you rely too much on a man, you’ll be the one who gets hurt in the end.
It’s said that a woman’s heart is like the sea, but sometimes a man’s heart can be ruthless too. When you invest too much in a relationship, your value will decrease.
Perhaps many women think that doing many touching things will definitely move the other person, but this kind of emotion is the most foolish. The more you love yourself, the more a man will love you. When you give up too much for love, the one who gets hurt will be you.
So, on the emotional journey, women must learn to love themselves well to reduce unnecessary harm.