Boundaries are one of the signs of maturity.
Simply put, it means having a sense of proportion in everything you do.
Everyone likes to be around people who know their boundaries.
These people are comfortable to be around. They know how to act in different situations. They make friends easily.
They do well in their careers, friendships, and families.
In Your Career, Boundaries Help You Succeed
There are rules in the workplace. You need to learn to say no and also learn to help others.
Ruby didn’t know how to say no at work. Every morning she would go to the office and be told what to do. She never refused. She was like a spinning top. She was angry and frustrated, but she kept quiet.
Later, Lisa, a new coworker, saw Ruby running around doing favors for everyone. She couldn’t stand it anymore. She taught Ruby how to say no.
Ruby learned to say no. When her coworkers asked her to get them documents, she said, “I’m not going that way.” She enjoyed saying no for the first time.
In the workplace, the people who are always busy are often the ones who are always doing favors. They accept every job and never learn to say no.
They may be hard-working, but no one remembers their hard work because hard work has little value.
Of course, just learning to say no isn’t enough.
In the workplace, the people who really succeed are the ones who have a spirit of helping others. But it depends on how you help others.
People who have boundaries are always willing to help others.
Mature people don’t show off. They let others shine.
They are willing to take responsibility. They are good at helping others. They are open-minded and have a big vision.
Mature people know when to say no and when to take responsibility in the workplace.
They understand that the rules of the workplace are all about value. If you can’t provide value to the company, it doesn’t matter how much work you do. They will focus their energy on creating high-value things.
Having boundaries in the workplace will help you succeed.
In Your Friendships, Boundaries Keep Friendships Strong
Some people say there are no friends in the workplace. It’s all about competition. You can’t be close to your coworkers. But friends are different. You can say anything to your best friend. You can vent your emotions to them. Your best friend should be there for you. That’s what a true best friend is.
Mature people have boundaries with their friends. Even if they are close, they keep a certain distance. If they are being bothered, they know how to say no.
Truly mature people take responsibility for their emotions. They don’t complain about their misfortunes all the time. Everyone is busy and tired.
Does that mean you can’t talk to your best friend when you’re heartbroken?
Of course not. You can talk to them, but you need to know when to stop. Your friend only has so much emotional space. You can’t expect them to be happy while you’re depressed.
“My best friend is heartbroken and keeps calling me to cry. Can I just ‘ignore’ her?”
It’s actually a good idea to ignore them. You won’t absorb their negative energy, and you can still comfort your friend.
But if you really can’t listen to your friend, it’s best to be honest with them.
A best friend who has boundaries will not ignore their friend’s feelings.
Friends can support each other in difficult times, but they need to have something to give. In today’s society, most people are under pressure from work and life. They can’t handle more negative energy.
Mature people understand that there is no true empathy in the world. You want someone to understand you, and they want someone to understand them.
Family and work are already stressful enough. What if you don’t have any friends? That would be really tough. Everyone needs friends, but friendships require investment. Boundaries are an investment in your friendships.
Friendships with boundaries last a long time.
In Your Family, Boundaries Help Couples Stay Harmonious and Children Succeed
“Understand what’s yours and what’s theirs. Keep your boundaries and don’t violate anyone else’s.”
There’s an old couple who have been together for decades. They are still in love. Some people are curious. They ask, “How do you keep your relationship going like this?”
The husband takes the person to the park to chat.
After a while, the person suggests, “Let’s go back. Your wife will be worried about you.”
The old man smiles and says, “We’ve been together for 42 years. Every day, we give each other an hour off. I come to the park to play, and my wife plays with her friends.”
Being alone is a need of the soul. When your soul is fulfilled, you can love others better.
This is true for couples, and it’s also true for parent-child relationships.
Mature parents respect their children’s independent souls. They don’t force their own will on their children. They don’t interfere with their children’s interests and hobbies.
We can’t change the current state of education, but we can change our attitude towards our children and education.
Whether it’s a couple or a child, the best love we can give each other is freedom.
Every soul is unique and needs to be seen.
Being together doesn’t mean doing the same thing. It can also mean you do your thing and I do mine. We don’t bother each other. We each enjoy doing what we’re doing.
Mature people need freedom and solitude. They understand that others need freedom and solitude too. So, truly mature people have boundaries with their partners and children.
These boundaries are the foundation of a harmonious family and the foundation of children’s independence and focus.