Were you raised in poverty or affluence?
Are you happy with how you were raised now?
True affluence includes both material wealth and spiritual richness.
A person’s family background, parents’ characteristics, whether poor or rich, reasonable or unreasonable, are not chosen by oneself.
Psychology says: the more a person lacks something in childhood, the more they seek it in adulthood. For example, those lacking love in childhood will crave love crazily in adulthood, while those lacking money in childhood will aspire to be wealthy.
Behind many people’s current lives are traces of their original families.
So, what are the differences between girls raised in poverty and girls raised in affluence?
Some say that women raised in poverty are extremely lacking in love and self-esteem, making them easily deceived by men in relationships. Women raised in affluence are outgoing, confident, and not easily swayed by men’s small favors.
Therefore, to help daughters resist external temptations as they grow up, we often say: raise women in affluence.
What Does Raising in Affluence Mean?
Is it about spending more money on her? Giving her whatever she wants? Blindly satisfying her desires?
Raising in poverty and raising in affluence can be easily misunderstood as purely material poverty and affluence. In fact, poverty and affluence should be divided into spiritual and material aspects.
Spiritual poverty has a deeper impact on people than material poverty.
Some parents may never mistreat their children materially but constantly suppress, criticize, and belittle them, leading to sensitive and insecure personalities in these children.
Families with poor material conditions are more likely to experience dual poverty, as money does influence one’s perspectives and ambitions.
Therefore, true affluence is not just providing a quality life for children in their current family conditions but also enriching them spiritually, nurturing their values, perspectives, and ambitions, and giving them choices rather than making choices for them.
Whether Poorly Raised or Well-Raised, Love is the Best Way to Raise
When it comes to educating children, people often think of poor upbringing and affluent upbringing.
In the end, Ava could not be classified as either poorly raised or well-raised. Her family was not wealthy. Due to her mother’s illness, they even accumulated debts.
Ava lived with her grandmother until the age of eight, as her father traveled with her sick mother seeking medical help.
At first, Ava resented her parents and rebelled against them. However, no matter what she did, her parents never blamed her. It was only when Ava lashed out at them and questioned her existence that her mother’s illness worsened.
After this incident, Ava realized her parents’ hardships. She saw her mother’s pain and her father’s sacrifices for her medical expenses.
Despite their financial struggles, Ava never lacked food or clothing. She grew up in a loving environment and learned to love and be loved, becoming gentle and content.
Now, she has a husband who treats her like a queen and two lovely daughters.
The best education parents can give their children is not through a formulaic poor or affluent upbringing but by setting an example of love and teaching children how to love and conduct themselves.
Women raised in love are more likely to find happiness and achieve it on their terms.
Regardless of How You Were Raised, You Must Enrich Yourself
Chris, a middle-aged father who faced unemployment and poverty, lived a tough life with his son. When his son expressed a desire to become a basketball player, Chris bluntly told him that he wasn’t good at basketball.
Feeling discouraged, the son put the basketball aside. As they were about to leave, Chris picked up the basketball and said, “Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t succeed, not even me. If you have a dream, defend it and make it come true.”
This advice wasn’t just for his son but also for himself. Chris broke through numerous obstacles and became a successful stockbroker.
Don’t let others dictate your capabilities. Those who doubt you may know less than you do.
Remember, fate shuffles the cards, but we are the ones who play them.
Some people remain trapped by their troubled family backgrounds, while others emerge stronger because of them.