Emotions are like a gun. When we pull the trigger, we’re actually pointing the barrel at ourselves.
Out of Control Temper Kills Your Intelligence
A bad temper kills your intelligence. It drags you into a swamp of anger and drops you into an abyss you can’t escape.
Controlling your temper is like putting brakes on a speeding car. When you need to stop, you stop. You avoid trouble and welcome good fortune.
You can only download good luck if you have a good temper.
Your whole life, you pay for your temper.
A Moment of Impulsivity, A Lifetime of Regret
People with bad tempers are like fire. They easily burn others, and they easily destroy themselves.
One afternoon, a bus and a white car almost crashed on a main road. The car driver was furious. He leaned out the window and yelled at the bus driver. Then he braked suddenly in front of the bus, then drove slowly. He did this for 200 meters. The bus driver was angry and lost his temper. He rammed the white car several times.
The car driver jumped out and ran away. The bus driver then swerved and drove over the car driver’s legs.
The car owner lost both of his legs because of his anger. He lost his whole life. The bus driver lost his job and his freedom because of his anger.
A moment of anger ruins a whole life. A moment of impulsivity, a lifetime of regret. An uncontrolled temper is like lighting a match in a gunpowder warehouse. The consequences are unimaginable.
10% of life is made up of what happens to you, and the other 90% is decided by how you react to it.
The smartest thing to do with the 10% you can’t change is to control your temper. That way, you avoid the other 90% from sliding into an uncontrollable abyss.
When your temper flares up, your thoughts become a mess. Anger creates waves. Each wave is a fatal blow.
Getting angry is instinct. Controlling your anger is a skill.
Temper is a gate to good fortune or misfortune. Get rid of your temper, and you’ll win in life.
A Moment of Patience, A Lifetime of Fortune
People who are calm and warm-hearted have great fortune and blessings.
People with mild tempers don’t rush things. They’re kind and polite to everyone. They have a lot of good fortune.
One afternoon, Lucas was driving to a meeting and parked his car on a hill. Just as he was about to get out, a white car in front of him rolled back and hit his car with a bang.
Lucas’s car had a dent, and the front car had a scratch.
A woman named Emma ran over and yelled, “You hit my car! Pay up!”
Lucas didn’t have a dashcam and there were no traffic lights nearby. He patiently explained, “Ma’am, your car rolled back.”
When she heard this, the woman slapped Lucas. Then she took off her high heels and smashed them on the front of Lucas’s car.
Lucas tried to reason with her, but it didn’t work. He had other things to do, so he gave her a few hundred dollars and swallowed his anger. A passerby recorded the whole thing and posted it online.
Lucas, who remained calm and rational, won praise from everyone and became an unexpected internet sensation.
Emma was criticized by netizens and her life was severely affected.
Uncontrolled temper brings temporary relief, but leaves behind lasting consequences.
When you encounter unexpected annoyances, being able to control your emotions, resist impulses, and not get dragged into the mud of other people’s anger is the ultimate sign of good character.
“Who can remain calm in the midst of rage, and clear-headed in the midst of anger, is a true hero.”
True strength often comes from those who are “calm as a lake, though thunder roars within.” They’re not emotionless, but they have cultivated a calm heart.
It’s natural to have a temper, but you can’t let it “burn out of control.”
Temper is like a red light on the road. Your happiness level is like your driving score. Whenever you run a red light in life, your happiness score is silently deducted.
The ability to control your temper is the ability to protect your happiness.
Good Temper Holds a Lifetime of Good Luck
Andy and Roy both started working at a supermarket. They were both good at their jobs, but their tempers were very different.
One time, they were both stocking shelves and their carts collided. The goods fell to the floor.
Andy immediately blamed Roy, saying, “Are you blind? There’s so much space, why did you hit me?”
Roy apologized repeatedly and then quickly picked up her own goods. Andy continued to give her a hard time, “Why are you only picking up your own stuff? Pick up mine, too. You’re paying for the damage.”
Roy silently picked up all the goods. After checking, she found that only a teapot was broken. She paid for it without a word.
The manager happened to be there at the time.
The next day, the manager asked Roy, “She hit you, why didn’t you fight back?”
Roy smiled and said, “It’s not a big deal. We’re coworkers. There’s no need to make a big fuss. Besides, I can afford a teapot.”
At that time, the supermarket was looking for a new supervisor. The manager wanted to choose between Andy and Roy， so he secretly conducted an employee opinion poll. Everyone voted for Roy.
It turned out that Andy had a bad temper and often argued with her coworkers. Roy had a mild temper and was very popular. She was promoted to supervisor.
It was not so much her work skills that won her the opportunity, but her good temper that brought her good luck.
A good temper is a catalyst for career advancement.
In psychology, there is a “12-second effect.” It says that a storm of anger usually lasts no more than 12 seconds. After that, people will return to their usual calm.
Unfortunately, most people are controlled by those 12 seconds and say or do things they regret.
When you’re angry, count to 12 in your head. When your mind is calm, your actions will be calm as well.
You get rid of your bad temper in those 12 seconds. You regain the opportunity to solve the problem. You accumulate good luck. Acting with a good temper increases your destiny points.
There’s a saying:
A healthy emotional state is more powerful than a hundred kinds of wisdom.
Character determines destiny. Temper determines the future. A good temper gives your life more power.
If you want to have good luck, you must first learn to calm down.
When you calm down, you regain your reason. You achieve your goals.
Cultivating a good temper can reduce 80% of the troubles in your life. The other 20% will be much better.
In life, there are always unexpected tempers. We must resist life’s ambushes with enough calm.
May your temper always be moderate, and may your life be filled with good fortune.