A happy person may not be overly obsessed with happiness, but someone pretending to be happy definitely craves happiness.
Behind the pretense may lie helplessness, coercion, or even self-protection. However, it can only serve as a temporary measure, not a long-term solution.
Prolonged pretense easily blurs the line between ‘fake’ and ‘real,’ dragging oneself and others into a painful abyss of confusion.
The More You Pretend to Be Happy, the Harder It Is to Be Truly Happy
The worst outcome is not divorce but becoming a couple wearing masks. No love or expectations for each other, yet living together—this is the greatest misfortune.
Pretending to be happy is sometimes easy—posting a few smiling photos together on social media can fool everyone.
But at other times, even if you deceive everyone, it’s hard to deceive yourself. If you don’t love or like him, it’s challenging to be close to him or tolerate him as before.
Initial rejection and aversion actually speak volumes. Choosing to pretend or turn a blind eye leads to self-deception and numbness.
Many couples pretend to be happy—showing respect in public but have been living separately for years due to various reasons.
Pretending to be happy is a yearning for happiness, but the more you pretend, the harder it is to find true happiness.
It’s like neglecting to remove the rotten flesh from a wound, which leads to infection and risks the need for organ removal.
Pretending to be physically healthy and pretending a happy marriage are similar—only you truly understand the feelings.
Masking is just a performance; true happiness and health are what everyone truly desires.
Often, it’s not the lack of happiness but the time spent on pretense that delays true happiness.
If your inner unhappiness is disregarded, the outward happiness is merely an illusion.
Those Pretending to Be Happy Are Living for Others to See
In reality, many people pretend to be happy, wealthy, or content.
Elderly people in nursing homes boast about their lives, yet the lack of visits from their children is an undeniable fact.
A boss may boast about his achievements but may falter in front of a lowly service staff.
Couples may claim to love each other in public but struggle to order a meal the other enjoys.
Is this happiness, wealth, or contentment? Not at all—it’s all a show for others.
Auntie is a woman who has suffered in marriage.
Despite family objections, she married a man who turned out to be lazy and addicted to gambling. She endured abuse and even contemplated suicide.
Yet, she continues to pretend that everything is harmonious in front of others.
The more she pretends, the worse her husband’s behavior becomes. She prioritizes saving face over her own well-being.
Choosing to pretend rather than face the truth has led to a lifetime of misery. Prioritizing appearances over listening to her inner voice has been detrimental.
Only when she stops seeking validation from others can she break free from this cycle of deception.
Women Must Give Themselves a Chance to Turn Back
Many women pretending to be happy often think they can endure hardships and move on.
They believe that marriage must last forever, pushing forward blindly.
Accepting that pretending never leads to true happiness, why not turn back? Reflecting on past experiences can help both parties minimize the damage.
Viewing marriage as a natural progression rather than an obligation can help find a way out of a stagnant relationship.
Women must allow themselves to turn back or start anew in relationships.
Remaining in a broken relationship is not the essence of ‘till death do us part.’ It’s about acknowledging the present, following your heart, and making a positive choice.
Don’t walk a path filled with thorns disguised as roses through pretense. It’s a cruel act towards yourself, doubling the torment.
Real happiness is a quiet force that cannot be faked.