“I encourage everyone to be a bit more reserved, as excessive enthusiasm is not a way to maintain good relationships.”
Life is like a train journey, where some people get on and others get off.
In this world, even our closest family members can’t accompany us for a lifetime, let alone others who are not related to us by blood.
Learn to be a bit more mature, and allocate your limited time to the most important things and the people you love the most. Be moderate in your enthusiasm, and let the rest take their natural course.
Don’t waste your time on unnecessary things and people; be reserved, but not intentionally trying to please others. Use your precious time wisely, and that’s the mark of true maturity.
A Truly Mature Person Knows How to Be Reserved
Look at people with a calm eye, listen to them with a calm ear, and think with a calm mind.
A reserved person can observe the world calmly, judge situations wisely, and treat people with moderation.
Getting too close to others can be a disaster, as it exposes all our flaws. If we can’t tolerate each other, we’ll gradually grow tired of each other.
Lily complained to her friends that her husband sometimes blocked her on social media, and her mother-in-law and sister-in-law did the same. She didn’t understand why they treated her like an outsider.
Later, everyone found out that she was afraid of her husband spending money on his family, and she would interrogate him about every purchase. If her husband didn’t buy what she recommended, she would get very upset.
Her husband often advised her to be less nosy, but they would argue about it and couldn’t come to a conclusion. So, later on, everyone felt that she might be too sensitive, and they stopped telling her things, even blocking her on social media.
Being overly enthusiastic can put pressure on others.
Learn to Be a Bit More Reserved and Don’t Let Everyone into Your Life
Lisa was invited to many gatherings by her boss, but she wasn’t good at socializing and didn’t want to make small talk. Her boss told her not to be shy, saying they were like one big family.
But Lisa said she was afraid of being part of a big family, and the atmosphere became very awkward.
Later, when her boss invited her again, she politely declined, and eventually, her boss fired her, citing her poor research reports.
Not being good at socializing made Lisa suffer, but wasn’t it good for her to prioritize herself? If she had to sacrifice her own happiness for the sake of relationships, she would be miserable.
A truly mature person knows how to be reserved, doesn’t participate in meaningless social activities, and doesn’t agree to unreasonable requests.
A Truly Mature Person Knows How to Make Their Enthusiasm Valuable
As the saying goes:
“A gentleman’s friendship is as calm as water.”
A good relationship isn’t built on enthusiasm but on shared values and mutual respect.
Someone who is too enthusiastic will eventually become disillusioned and trapped in their own misery.
There was a person who was extremely enthusiastic, always saying “I’ll do it for you!”
No matter whether he could help or not, he would promise to do so and then try his best to fulfill his promises.
Slowly, everyone took advantage of his enthusiasm, from politely saying thank you to directly making demands.
In the end, his enthusiasm only brought him trouble and pain.
A truly mature person knows how to allocate their enthusiasm to valuable things.
A Truly Mature Person Knows How to Leave Time for Themselves
A truly mature person knows that life is short and should be lived to the fullest. They prioritize their own development, take care of themselves, and don’t waste time on unnecessary things.
Success belongs to those who are prepared and good to themselves.
In the city, people seem to be shining, but each has their own hidden flaws. There are many acquaintances, but few true friends.
Ah Fan was the president of the student union in college and was very social. After graduation, he participated in various social activities to improve his social skills.
Through introductions, he entered several elite circles and even added some influential people on WeChat, attending dinners with them.
Every time they met, they would praise him, saying he was young and promising.
But when Ah Fan started his own business and faced financial difficulties, he sought help from those influential people, only to find that none of them were willing to help.
He finally realized that the praise he received was just small talk. He had wasted his precious time on socializing, and all he got was a beer belly.
Useful friends aren’t necessarily gained through socializing.
Allocate your limited time to self-improvement, and don’t chase after butterflies; instead, plant flowers, and when they bloom, the butterflies will come.
Getting rid of others’ expectations and finding your true self is our lifelong mission and responsibility.
A truly mature person knows how to be reserved, doesn’t intentionally pursue relationships, and believes in the concept of fate.
A truly mature person knows how to allocate their enthusiasm, prioritize valuable things, and leave time for themselves. They won’t be satisfied with meeting others’ expectations.