“This world has too many pretty faces, but too few interesting souls.”
More and more people are fond of elegant living, striving to be an interesting person. So, what kind of person can live an elegant and interesting life? Maybe we can learn from them.
Inner Fulfillment
Lisa used to be a crazy shopper, and her 100-square-meter house was packed with clothes, shoes, and miscellaneous items…
Until one day, she felt the entire house was a mess, and even the air wasn’t fresh, and her body didn’t feel comfortable. So, she started getting rid of one useless thing every day.
Until she almost emptied her house, leaving only two sets of clothes and a few simple items. She would often practice yoga in her empty house, feeling an unprecedented sense of joy.
When a person’s inner world is rich, they don’t need many things to satisfy their desires.
“Life’s meaning doesn’t lie in possession, but it has its own meaning. We’re just blinded by too many possessions and losses, and only by letting go can we have more.”
We often sigh that there’s always one less piece of clothing in our closet. If your heart is satisfied, you’ll feel great even with just one piece of clothing.
Don’t be fooled by external things; what we need is not things themselves, but our rich inner world.
Are you often trapped in buying and hoarding, surrounded by clutter, and living a life that’s not truly yours? When you let go of some useless things, a spacious and bright environment will make you feel better and better.
Sense of Boundary
A couple had been in a relationship for eight years, from high school to college graduation. The boy continued to pursue his master’s degree, while the girl started working.
During his master’s program, the boy had a very close female classmate, and their relationship wasn’t romantic, but somewhat ambiguous. For example:
The boy would bring back lipstick and makeup for the girl when he traveled abroad, and would also bring the same brand of lipstick and makeup for his female classmate. After class, the boy and his female classmate would deliberately avoid another boy and go to a hot pot restaurant together.
They maintained this relationship for two years, and neither of them felt anything was wrong, nor did they do anything excessive.
However, as the girlfriend, the girl felt the boy lacked a sense of boundary, hurting her, and demanded a breakup.
In the end, they really did break up, and the boy was very sad, while the girl was also reluctant, but the girl’s stance was firm, and she couldn’t accept the boy’s lack of boundary.
What is a sense of boundary, anyway?
As the saying goes, a person without a sense of boundary will eventually hurt those around them. Whether in relationships or in doing things, we should be a person with a sense of boundary, and not harm others due to our ignorance.
Even close friends can’t be too familiar; otherwise, it will lead to estrangement.
Ritual Sense
Tian Yulan and her rich husband often showed off their love, so what’s the secret to their marriage?
One day, Tian Yulan attended her son’s parent-teacher conference, and she was furious when her son scored 86 points. Coincidentally, that day was their wedding anniversary, and her husband, Yan Peng, had prepared a surprise for her, which she had already forgotten.
Yan Peng had prepared flowers, balloons, champagne, and lace pajamas, all to give his wife a sense of ritual. Although they had been married for many years and had children, their marriage anniversary still needed a sense of ritual.
What is ritual sense?
“Ritual sense is not related to hypocrisy, pretentiousness, or artificiality, but a way to love life.”
Just like Yan Peng and Tian Yulan, even though they’ve been married for many years, they still maintain a sweet and loving relationship, largely because Yan Peng brought ritual sense into their life.
We should choose a unique way to celebrate special moments, making the people around us feel respected, and life can be happier.
Self-discipline and Fun
A horse trainer once tamed a thousand-mile horse, thinking that after training, the horse didn’t need to be tied up, so he didn’t tie it up daily.
One day, the horse trainer rode the horse out for a stroll, and the horse felt no constraints, thinking it was still in the horse farm, and kept running forward until it fell into a deep abyss and died.
The horse thought it was free, but it was actually restricted by the horse farm. Who knew that in the wild, there were dangers everywhere, and one mistake could cost its life?
Steve Jobs once said, “Freedom comes from self-confidence, and self-confidence comes from self-discipline. First, learn to control yourself, and then you can constantly exercise your self-confidence.”
A person without self-discipline, even if they’re a thousand-mile horse, will eventually self-destruct, while a person with self-discipline will definitely live a more magnificent and interesting life.
Recently, a silver-haired grandma in my friend circle has been very popular, saying, “I’m over 70, and I still enjoy working, which gives me a sense of rhythm and makes me more self-disciplined.”
A self-disciplined person, regardless of age, can always live better, even more interestingly, looking at the coldness and warmth of human relationships, and understanding what they want.
“A woman’s elegance is largely unrelated to her appearance, but closely related to her thoughts.”
When you understand what you like, what you care about, you can live more transparently, not caring about others’ opinions, and living your own life.
As the saying goes, “A pretty face is just one of many, but an interesting soul is worth a lifetime pursuit.” Do what you like, walk your own path, and you can live the life you like, and your life will be the most important.