Three Fears in Marriage: Boredom, Lack of Love, and Monotony
“Marriage is a besieged city. Those outside want to get in, while those inside want to get out.” This statement accurately reflects the reality of most marriages.
Almost every newly married couple has beautiful dreams about married life and endless aspirations for the future. But dreams and aspirations can’t be eaten. The daily grind of life, like cooking, cleaning, and paying bills, is the true theme of married life.
If these daily tasks aren’t handled well, they can turn into a mess, and pointless arguments can drain each other’s feelings, making the marriage boring, loveless, and monotonous. When facing these situations in marriage, what should we do?
Appreciate Each Other, Injecting Vitality into a Boring Marriage
“Marriage is the best practice.” This means a good marriage requires careful cultivation.
Most couples are complete strangers before they meet. Then, under the catalysis of love, they walk hand-in-hand into the palace of marriage. Before marriage, under the influence of hormones, they see the best side of each other.
After living together for a long time, they gradually get tired of pretending to be “perfect,” revealing their flaws. At this point, most couples feel like they were “blind” at the beginning and are disappointed by their partner’s behavior and manners.
They lament that the person they were madly in love with is so ordinary and boring.
But a good marriage, besides learning to appreciate and amplify each other’s strengths, tolerating each other’s weaknesses, also requires understanding and respecting each other.
Furthermore, you need to put some thought into it in your daily life, so that you can constantly inject new vitality into life and prevent marriage from becoming boring.
The best way to avoid a boring marriage is for both husband and wife to learn to appreciate each other’s strengths, tolerate their weaknesses, and express their feelings to each other with actions. Such a way of getting along in marriage, how could it be boring?
Starting from the Little Things in Life, Bidding Farewell to a Loveless Marriage
Some say marriage is the “grave” of love, believing that the shelf life of love is only 18 months. In fact, love doesn’t disappear; it’s just that many people, after entering marriage, become lazy about investing time and energy into nurturing it.
Everyone hopes that their marriage will be full of passion, just as women hope for eternal youth. But few people are willing to spend time rekindling passion. Instead, because they have been together for a long time, their tolerance for each other’s limitations becomes shorter.
When passion fades, various frictions in life intensify conflicts, making each other look less and less pleasing, even feeling disgusted by each other. The resentment that arises at this time will gradually devour love.
Women often complain about their husbands’ lack of ability, only caring about how much money they make and never saying a word of comfort. Women’s behavior makes husbands feel like they are just their wives’ long-term meal tickets.
Ultimately, the husband betrays this loveless marriage and falls for another woman. In fact, maintaining a happy marriage requires starting from the little things in daily life.
For example, say more affectionate words, make a cup of hot tea for each other, give each other a warm smile, give in during an argument, hug each other after a cold war, and so on.
These are the details that enhance marital happiness and the secret to keeping the flower of love blooming.
“The letters I send you, I always have to send them to the post office. I don’t like putting them in the green mailbox on the street. I always suspect it’s slower there.” Although it’s not sweet talk, it’s sincere and touching.
So, as long as you exchange sincerity for sincerity, the love in marriage can flow like a gentle stream.
Improve Attractiveness, Get Rid of a Boring Marriage
Many people believe that the most romantic marriage is growing old together with their partner. But in real life, couples who are still as loving as ever with gray hair are few and far between.
“Marriage is like a car. When you first get married, it’s brand new and full of energy. Gradually, it will wear out, and its speed will be much slower.” Such a marriage is neither appetizing nor worth giving up.
The reason is mainly due to the decline of mutual attraction. As someone described a long-term marriage, it’s “like touching your right hand with your left hand, boring.”
“In a marital relationship, attraction plays a vital role.” But most people, after entering marriage, gradually become unkempt and careless about their words and deeds.
Beautiful appearances are all alike, but interesting souls are unique.
If you can change from the inside out, triggering external changes, such as improving your inner depth and temperament through reading, this will make you more confident and radiate personal charm from the inside out.
Besides this, you can also increase mutual attraction by increasing interaction and communication between husband and wife.
For example, watching a movie together, taking a spontaneous trip, or cultivating a shared hobby are all effective ways to increase communication and avoid the crisis of a boring marriage.
“If things need to change, then I will change.” To avoid the three situations of boredom, lack of love, and monotony in marriage, you must start from yourself and influence others to change through your own changes.
Influence your loved one’s lifestyle with your own life interests. This is the ultimate code to a happy marriage.
Easily understand your partner’s emotions, give him more understanding and care, and your partner will love you more in return.
