“Not accepting fate is the best fate.”
We don’t get to choose when our lives start, and we don’t get to choose when they end. But we *can* choose how we live between those two points.
Let go of self-pity, let go of resentment, and stay optimistic. Use a life that doesn’t accept fate to tear apart the lies of unfair fate.
Let Go of Self-Pity
John is a cerebral palsy patient. He runs a paper products company, owns millions in assets, and has a wide range of business operations.
Before this, he was called a fool and an alien because of his strange appearance. People even insulted him to his face, saying, “You’re not even as good as a dog.” In his words, every day in the past was dark.
He realized that staying curled up in a corner, feeling inferior, would only confirm his incompetence. He chose to stop hiding from the world’s gaze. To learn to ride a bike, he fell, got bruised, and even fell into a ditch, covered in mud and water.
He finally found his first job, and he rode his bike 50 kilometers to work and back every day, rain or shine, for two years. This also helped him improve his coordination.
He says confidently, laughing, “I used to walk like a penguin, but now I walk like a handsome guy.”
People’s perception of him changed from “fool” to factory manager.
Beethoven once said:
I will seize fate by the throat, and I will never let it conquer me.
John was able to make a complete transformation because he didn’t choose to hide from reality and continue living in the eyes of others.
Instead, he let go of self-pity and, through his own efforts, slowly regained his lost dignity and happiness. I’ve always liked this quote: May you live a life full of vigor, not burdened by the opinions of others.
Life is always unpredictable. Only by not backing down and not being cowardly can you firmly hold your fate in your own hands.
Let Go of Resentment
Those who know themselves do not blame others. Those who are content with their lot do not blame heaven. Those who blame others are poor. Those who blame heaven have no ambition.
Mary, a neighbor, was unable to escape the shadows of her past for a long time. Her first half of life was like a soap opera.
Her in-laws disliked her for having a daughter, and they made her life difficult. Her husband filed for divorce and took custody of their daughter. Later, she found out that her ex-husband had been cheating on her all along.
Mary, carrying a weary body and a heart filled with resentment, left the home that had taken everything from her. She became withdrawn, depressed, and lost her zest for life. But her absence didn’t affect her ex-husband’s life at all.
All the resentment was just consuming her life. She decided to let go of resentment and find her own value.
She stepped out of her inner turmoil and started as a salesperson, blocking out all information irrelevant to her self-improvement and focusing on her performance.
She used her free time to learn accounting skills, making the most of every minute.
Later, she passed the accounting exam and got a job as a cashier. She achieved a 9-to-5 work schedule with weekends off. She also seized the opportunity to regain custody of her daughter. She said:
If you want to find your own value, you can’t just complain and be sad. Only by constantly enriching yourself can you become strong.
Many times, we complain about the hardships of life, but we don’t realize that it’s just that we’re unwilling to let go of ourselves. As long as you are willing to step out of the cocoon you’ve created for yourself, you can dispel the inner darkness and wholeheartedly embrace a new life.
What you’ve lost and what you’ve yet to achieve will eventually return to you.
Stay Optimistic
An optimist conquers himself first, and then conquers life.
In a world full of ups and downs, may we all maintain an optimistic attitude, embrace the challenges of fate, and take charge of our lives with confidence.
We can’t predict what kind of setbacks we’ll encounter in life, and we can’t avoid them. They won’t be kind enough to spare you just because you’re helpless and sad.
After the pain, we need to bravely face the broken reality. Only through our own efforts can we strive to create more possibilities and have the chance to live the life we want.
I saw this quote:
Life isn’t interesting, it’s you who make it interesting by loving it.
This is true. A love for life fills people with hope.
By letting go of self-pity, we can better grasp our own lives and gain the ability to create a new beginning.
By letting go of resentment, we can more clearly see our direction and find a different meaning in life.
By staying optimistic, we can face difficulties with greater composure and have a broader perspective.
May we all live out our true selves, leading a smooth and carefree life.