“The journey of growth is filled with obstacles. Some people give up. Some indulge themselves. Others choose to grow deep roots, hoping to stand firm.”
We believe every woman has gone through a period of self-doubt and insecurity.
Even now, some of us still struggle with self-doubt and insecurity. We often compare our flaws to others, only to find ourselves lacking.
Learn to Recognize Your Flaws and Work to Correct Them
When my husband and I went to the courthouse to get a new marriage license because the old one was damaged, I looked at the photo from twenty years ago. I was young and full of life. Memories flooded back like a montage.
Twenty years ago, I wasn’t ugly in the photo.
But I was incredibly insecure about my looks and height.
Whenever I walked with the other girls in my class, who were beautiful and tall, I felt a sense of inferiority. I would unconsciously walk on the edge of the sidewalk.
This insecurity affected my dating life. I had a crush on a boy for a long time, but whenever I thought about my flaws, my looks and height, I would avoid him.
When he finally confessed his feelings for me, I was surprised and happy, but my insecurity still lingered. Eventually, my lack of confidence ended our relationship.
As I went through life and experienced the world, I learned to face life’s challenges on my own.
I realized that excessive self-doubt and insecurity were the real stumbling blocks in my life. They held me back from moving forward and realizing my full potential. If someone asked me what I would change about my past, I would say that I would have recognized my flaws and worked to correct them. Because knowing your flaws and not fixing them is the biggest mistake you can make.
The Happiest Women Know What They Want
I’ve been thinking about whether independent women or women who rely on their partners are happier in marriage. Initially, I thought financially independent women were happier.
Because they are the ones who can take it or leave it in a marriage.
My husband developed feelings for a coworker, a strong and independent woman who excelled at her job. My husband’s wife stayed at home to take care of their two children. She didn’t work and had no source of income.
But she was a woman with high emotional intelligence. She knew that the romance of dating fades in everyday life. But she also knew that marriage couldn’t survive without romance.
She stopped making unreasonable demands on her husband, but she made it clear what she wanted and didn’t want, and what she would never forgive. She had an independent personality but showed her dependence on her husband.
She would make plans for them to spend time together on their anniversary and remember his family’s birthdays. She kept their family happy and harmonious.
When the coworker confessed her feelings for my husband and wanted to take things further, he refused.
He said, “You are an independent woman. You will find a better man to pursue you. But my wife depends on me for everything. She can’t survive without me.”
Women with high emotional intelligence give men a sense of honor and belonging, which makes them more responsible.
Dress Well, But Also Learn and Grow
A beautiful appearance is common, but a fascinating soul is one in a million. Women with high emotional intelligence, who live well and are independent in their thoughts, not only improve their appearance but also constantly learn and grow, enhancing their inner strength and character.
Independent women are not just financially independent but also independent in their minds and spirits.
“Fortunately, I know that women need to grow to truly succeed in life.”
Life is full of ups and downs.
When we truly understand that we are the source of all our problems, the motivation to be positive will far outweigh our complaints.
When you stand in front of the mirror as a new you, you’ll realize that all the hardships were meant to help you find a better version of yourself and to love yourself better. We long for love and passion, to be loved and to love.