To live better and handle problems better, we all want to be mature.
But, maturity isn’t easy. It doesn’t just happen as we get older. Everyone needs to go through life’s challenges to slowly become mature.
That’s why some people are worldly and wise even though they’re young, while others are old but still act and talk childishly. Everyone experiences different hardships and challenges.
So, true maturity comes from within.
There are many signs of maturity, such as being able to handle pressure, not fearing loneliness, and being good at communicating with others. But, these could be due to other reasons.
People who can handle pressure might be gritting their teeth because they have something they must hold onto. People who don’t fear loneliness might just not like socializing and have become isolated. People who are good at communicating might be good at expressing themselves or at understanding people.
True maturity comes from within, and so do the signs of maturity. Truly mature people are usually emotionally stable. Even though they might face setbacks, failures, and feel down, they can always pull themselves out of their slump and get back to their best state.
Our emotions are mostly related to our inner selves. Truly mature people know how to view others correctly and how to get along with themselves. Immature people, on the other hand, only have two main characteristics.
Immature People Tend to Underestimate Themselves
Immature people are often fragile inside. This fragility shows up in many ways, and the most direct one is that they easily underestimate themselves.
Although many people think they’re great and have a high opinion of themselves, this is only when they’re in a good mood.
We often hear people around us complain about how things haven’t been going well for them lately, and that one bad thing keeps happening after another. They mess up at work, their relationships are falling apart, and even their health might be suffering.
As their mood gets worse, these people start to think, “I’m just so terrible.” This makes everything even worse.
Immature people are easily swayed. When they encounter something unfamiliar, they’re afraid of failure and might not even try.
“I can’t do it.” “I might not do well.” “I don’t have any experience in this.” “I failed before.”
These voices stop us from moving forward, but we forget that as long as we work hard, life has endless possibilities. We won’t know how capable we are or how much potential we have if we don’t try.
Whether it’s being influenced by outside voices or being held back by our own worries, the root of the problem is that we often underestimate ourselves.
We know our own thoughts best, so we’re aware of our weaknesses. We also understand that we’re not as good as others might think.
Immature people focus more on their flaws and shortcomings. These flaws easily hold them back, making their emotions worse.
Sometimes, we also underestimate ourselves because we care too much about what others think. We look at ourselves through the eyes of others, which leads to a wrong self-assessment.
Not being able to understand and assess yourself clearly is a major sign of immaturity.
Immature People Tend to Overestimate Others
Besides underestimating themselves, immature people also tend to overestimate others.
Many people have felt this way. Whether it’s appearance, money, fame, or family environment, there’s always someone better than us.
We’ve been taught to be humble and to constantly improve since we were young. We’re reminded that there’s always someone better and that we shouldn’t be proud of our achievements. So, when we grow up and meet more outstanding people, we unconsciously compare ourselves to them. We even compare our weaknesses to their strengths.
To keep up, we compare ourselves to those who are better and to our past selves. Most of the time, the results of these comparisons are dissatisfying.
Sometimes, our expectations of ourselves are close to perfection, but perfection doesn’t exist. Overly pursuing perfection is a sign of our immaturity. We can’t accept our flaws with grace.
Seeing people around us with high salaries, easy jobs, or happy and wealthy families, we always feel like we’re not doing well enough. But we don’t realize that while we envy them, they envy us too.
Everyone shows their best side. So, the lives of the people we see might not be as easy as we think.
When we overestimate others, we’re actually being deceived by illusions. We often feel that others have it easy and only we’re struggling and working hard. This makes us feel unbalanced or tired and want to give up.
Not being able to truly understand someone’s situation is another sign of immaturity.
Immature People Tend to Be Emotional
Women are often more sensitive and emotional, so they have a harder time maturing.
We tend to see our flaws more easily and ignore our strengths. Then, we magnify our flaws, focusing only on them, while seeing only the bright spots in others.
This makes us more susceptible to outside influences, and our emotions become unstable. This can even affect our judgment and choices, leading us off our original path. We don’t have the courage to live the life we want.
The root cause is that we tend to like others, but we have a hard time liking ourselves. It’s even harder to accept our flawed selves.
So, we might feel unworthy of our loved ones or incapable of handling a job. When something goes wrong, we easily blame ourselves.
But, if we can’t calmly accept our imperfect selves and bravely face our flaws, we’ll have a hard time maturing. Immature people are far from happiness. Even if they get it by chance, they easily lose it.
Because, if we’re not mature enough, we’ll get stuck on our flaws and have a hard time confidently discovering our strengths. We lack the ability to love ourselves, the confidence that brings courage, and the strength and composure. This kind of us will inevitably get lost in this complex world and lose ourselves.
Mature women are strong inside. Because of this strength, they have an elegance in their every move. This kind of woman not only controls her own life but also brings happiness to those around her. She spreads this happiness endlessly, eventually filling her own life.