What Age Group is Most Likely to Get Divorced?

There is data showing that marriage hits a snag at 10 to 14 years. Most men divorce between the ages of 41 and 43, while women do so between the ages of 37 and 40.
Divorce isn’t about time.
Many people wonder why someone would want a divorce after so many years of marriage.
“As a mother, I have become more and more adept in this role. But as the children grow up, I start to feel different. I need some changes in my life. My ‘job’ is done.”
Most women probably understand the hidden meaning behind this ‘job.’
Charlotte has been married to her husband for over twenty years. Their marriage has no domestic violence, no third-party involvement, and their children are about to go to college. Yet, at this moment, Charlotte calmly asks for a divorce.
Why?
Because when a person is in a stable or turbulent relationship for a long time, they want to escape, especially women.
In marriage, a man’s worth can be shown through work, but for most women, especially homemakers, their value is judged by whether they have a sensible, successful, promising, filial child.
This is what Charlotte refers to as a ‘job.’ She has been living for others day after day for twenty years. When the children are capable of making their own choices in life, her task and way of proving her worth come to an end.
In other words, the heavy burden of being responsible for others’ lives is over, and the path to being responsible for one’s own life begins again.
Those who want a divorce will eventually choose divorce one day, regardless of whether the marriage has lasted a decade or several decades.
Especially when, apart from the children, this marriage has brought them no economic or emotional support, only exhaustion. The children are just a turning point in the marriage, and there is no longer a strong reason to endure.
Once a person can’t find the meaning of continuing the marriage, whether to divorce or not is not a matter of time, but a matter of timing!
Not Afraid of What Men Can’t Give, Afraid of When Men Won’t Give
Do you know what two people fear most in a relationship?
When Verna returned home on vacation, she received a ‘gift’—her parents’ divorce certificate.
It is called a gift because Verna’s father is not a qualified husband, not even a good father.
Growing up, Verna and her mother lived a tough life, but it was just the two of them. The man who was supposed to be a husband and father was out spending lavishly every day.
The reason is simple: the family favored sons over daughters, and with the mother being weak and ill, she couldn’t have another child.
So Verna had been persuading her mother to divorce for a long time, but the other party never agreed. Over time, Verna began to focus on her own life and no longer dwelled on her parents’ marriage.
That night, after many years, Verna slept in the same bed as her mother and they talked until dawn. She asked her mother why they endured for over a decade and still decided to divorce.
Her mother smiled and said, “Before, I had to support you and had a reason to keep going. Now that you’ve grown up, there’s no reason to continue.”
In fact, Verna knows that her mother has many secrets she hasn’t shared, such as being deeply in love before having children. Her arrival dealt a heavy blow to the marriage.
Verna also learned that her mother allowed her father to have an affair outside to ensure she had a complete childhood, even though her father actively mentioned divorce to her mother, she refused to give up for the sake of giving the child a complete family.
Moreover, the house with her name on it was not given by demolishing an old house but was saved by her mother’s hard work over the years.
Verna only found out about these things when she tried to persuade her father to divorce her mother and they ended up arguing.
After reading the story, do you know what two people fear most in a relationship?
The fear is: “I know what you want, I have it, but I don’t want to give it to you, I would rather give it to someone else than give it to you.”
Behind Divorce Is a Reevaluation of One’s Own Life
Divorce, two simple words, contain the lives of many people.
From being hopeful before marriage that the other person would change for love and family, to having love come and go after marriage, frequent disagreements, and finally realizing that you can’t change others, only yourself.
Some people spend a few years on this process, some spend a decade, some spend several decades, and some spend a lifetime deceiving themselves because they don’t want to, dare not, or are too lazy to make a change, settling for a mediocre life.
For those who ultimately choose divorce, they have definitely reflected on what they gained and lost in the marriage. The gains and losses do not necessarily refer to material possessions, but also include a rich spiritual aspect.
But one thing is certain, in an intimate relationship that drains you, the best thing to do is to walk away and cut losses in time.
Of course, we must understand that when a person chooses to divorce, it’s not about solving the problem, but facing the problem.
If you are not determined, unsure if you can be happy after divorce, then first be yourself in the marriage, and then decide on divorce matters.