Whether Spouses or Lovers, Three Behaviors During Chatting Indicate Their Changed Hearts
Life’s greatest joy is having someone who always warmly thinks of you. It’s a warmth in the soul and a touch in life. From youth to old age, life just passes by so simply.
But life often doesn’t go as planned, making it not so simple.
Because love is always so wonderful yet so heart-wrenching, there are many infatuated men and women in relationships. In the end, everyone will become indifferent. Just like how we were hurt by others, we also learn to hurt others.
So we sigh, “In the end, it’s you who changed, and you changed me too.”
Actually, the scariest thing in a relationship is not when the other person changes, but when they change and you haven’t noticed it yet. You are still in the dark, holding onto hope.
Whether spouses or lovers, there are three behaviors during chatting that indicate their changed hearts.
During chats, always claim to be busy
Time is like water in a sponge. Someone who loves you will squeeze out time for you, even if they are busy.
If someone no longer loves you or has changed their heart, even if they have plenty of time, they will claim to be busy just to avoid talking to you. If they don’t want to chat with you, they will always seem busy. Whether someone is busy or not depends entirely on their feelings and love for you.
Remember a friend who experienced this:
At the beginning, her boyfriend was quite nice, and her friend always felt he had a lot of free time. But after they got married and lived together, she found her husband becoming busier and busier.
Sometimes she wanted to chat with him, but he always said he had someone waiting for him outside, claiming to be busy. So he would say they could talk next time!
In reality, her friend had a lot on her mind and wanted to talk to her husband about work grievances and seek guidance, but he would still leave to do his own thing.
After some time, her husband suddenly wanted a divorce, leaving her friend heartbroken. She wondered why they had to divorce shortly after getting married, as she still loved him and couldn’t let go.
So, in life, if during chats, the other person always claims to be busy and doesn’t want to talk to you, it indicates they have changed their heart. At this point, you must prepare for the worst or find a chance to have a heartfelt conversation, no matter how difficult it may be. A person who loves you will make time for you, no matter how busy they are.
No longer replies to your messages
On a show, a female guest once said to the host, “Every message I send him disappears into thin air. I even suspect my phone is broken.”
Later, someone asked the male guest, “Is your phone broken, or do you just not want to reply?”
The male guest replied, “I’m too busy, so I didn’t see the message.”
Yet, every time the female guest messaged him, she never got a response, and eventually couldn’t even reach him. She had to seek help on stage through the show to solve her problem.
The host mentioned that it’s unlikely he never sees any of her messages. While missing a message once or twice is understandable, if someone never replies to you, it indicates they may have other thoughts in mind.
Later, the hosts advised the young man, “When you no longer love someone, just say it. Don’t choose to escape or waste the other person’s time. Be clear. We’re all adults, no one owes anyone anything. If you want to leave, just leave. Don’t feel embarrassed or think you’ve let a woman down.”
Often, when someone wants to break up with their partner, they tend to use this passive-aggressive approach. They never reply to the partner’s messages and disappear, making it impossible for the partner to reach them.
As an adult, one must take responsibility for their actions and the feelings of others. Even if you no longer love someone, as the hosts mentioned, be clear about it. Leave amicably. Don’t resort to passive-aggressiveness, leaving the other person confused.
Impatience in their tone
If someone chats with you in an impatient tone, it indicates that the love between you two has faded, and the other person may already dislike you.
Whether spouses or lovers, when this behavior occurs during chats, it signifies that the other person’s affection for you is diminishing. When someone has feelings for you, they will be very enthusiastic because they have some love for you in their heart.
However, if someone’s tone reveals impatience, it means they don’t want to chat with you at all. At this point, if you are clever, you can subtly express your thoughts and indirectly inquire about their feelings.
In general, whether it’s your spouse or lover, when this behavior occurs, it means the feelings between you two are fading. This phenomenon is common among many couples who have been married for many years.
Some couples, when newly married, enjoy talking to each other and are very gentle. But after many years of marriage, one becomes more irritable than the other. They can’t stand talking for more than a few sentences and sometimes even express extreme annoyance in their tone.
These couples have essentially lost their love. If they continue to live together, it’s only for the sake of the family or children.
When the other person shows impatience towards you, it means they have changed. In their eyes, you are no longer as important or lovable, leading to such behavior.
In this world, hearts change easily. As a poem goes, “Easily change the hearts of old friends, saying old hearts are easily changed.”
Whether it’s oneself or others, the heart is unpredictable, and feelings are fleeting. Hence, choosing love is often a dilemma because one is unsure whether to believe in it or not.
