Let’s take a quick EQ test: In your life, can you achieve the goals you set for yourself? When people avoid you or are cold towards you, how do you handle it? If you see someone you don’t want to say hello to on the street, what do you do? In your work, are your emotions affected by your coworkers?
People with high EQs often have their own opinions and the ability to distinguish right from wrong. Their thoughts aren’t easily influenced or controlled.
People with low EQs, on the other hand, often get stuck in their emotions and easily become resentful. They can’t hide their emotions, especially when they get angry. They often vent without thinking about the situation and then regret it later.
EQ and IQ are fundamentally different. IQ is often related to genetics, while EQ can be developed later in life. The level of your EQ directly determines how happy you are.
So, how can we develop our EQ and make our lives more fulfilling and happy? Hopefully, the following three points will help you.
Why Are You a Talented Person Who Can’t Find a Job?
Kids with high IQs are especially popular with teachers in school because their academic performance is always excellent, especially when it comes to their strengths.
These kids are often used by parents as examples to teach their own children. They are the stereotypical “other people’s kids.” We feel deep down that these kids’ futures are bright. When they grow up and enter society, they will be successful.
But often, our imagination is full, but reality is harsh. The students we once thought highly of because of their high IQs haven’t achieved much in society. Some even feel like they’re talented but unrecognized.
David’s mom took care of everything in his daily life because he was an excellent student. She even rented an apartment for him outside of school to make it easier to take care of him.
David did live up to expectations, and the papers he published during his master’s degree became his golden ticket to getting a job. He was hired by a state-owned enterprise at a high salary. But David was fired after only three months.
The reason is obvious. His mom’s constant care had made him lose the ability to live and work independently. He was used to being the “excellent kid” that his parents praised. He always felt like he was better than others, but without any achievements at work, his coworkers naturally didn’t respect him.
If your EQ isn’t always online in a team, and you think you can be the whole team, you’ll be the first one to be eliminated.
Why Are People With High EQs More Popular?
High EQ is about knowing how to talk. It’s about knowing what to say in different social situations. The things you say can defuse awkward situations and make people admire and respect you.
How to Develop Your EQ
IQ is generally related to genetics, while EQ is related to later experiences and training. So how can we develop and improve our EQ?
First, we need to learn more in our spare time. We need to work hard on things we like and love. Eventually, our hobbies will become our strengths. We also need to have our own circle of friends and socialize more. Learning can enrich your knowledge, strengths can help you regain your self-esteem and confidence, and socializing can improve your communication skills.
Alanna, with her dream of love, married and moved far away. She chose to be a stay-at-home wife. But because she didn’t have any family, friends, colleagues, or classmates in the city she lived in, she was completely disconnected from society.
Fortunately, she stuck to her hobbies and used her free time to pursue them. What really woke her up was when her work won an award. It was the first time she had traveled far away to receive an award.
As other award winners stood on stage and introduced themselves, they were so calm and composed. But when it was her turn to speak, she was so nervous that her face turned red and she couldn’t say a word. Her hand that wasn’t holding the award was shaking slightly.
At that moment, she suddenly realized that if she continued like this, she might really develop social anxiety. She also thought about how her relationship with her husband had become strained in recent years. It was because her thinking really couldn’t keep up with her husband.
When she got home, she used her strengths to find a job. Every morning, she got up and read aloud. Gradually, she found that her ability to express herself was getting better and better, and her work was becoming more and more effortless. Within two years of joining the company, she went from an ordinary employee to a middle manager.
“In a way, EQ is the ability to be likable.”
So how can we improve our EQ? Let’s start by studying hard, developing our strengths, and learning to praise others appropriately in social situations!